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violent_flower
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posted October 31, 2006 02:23 AM |
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Tending to Your Garden
So we tend to cast the stone of judgment to those around us that are not up to par so to speak. Those that once met or exceeded all of are expectations of what a true friend should be. So what happens when someone leaves us and starts there own lives? If they come back to us are they expected to be that same person and uphold all of those expectations that we put on them long ago?
The fact is that people grow and change depending on the phase of their life they are occupying at that time. We may not like it and we might even fight this stranger that now stand before us. We have to take into consideration before judging them, that maybe we have changed in our own way. Maybe it is nothing more than perception all the way around.
A childhood friend is just that, a childhood friend. How often does that exploring innocent eight year old really follow us through the rest of our lives? If they do, they have adapted to our lives and all the changes that have come with it. What if they leave and it is years before we see them again? Then there is no time for adapting and they are just propelled in front of us.
My point is that we all need to weed our garden of lingering friendship that are just not productive or have become toxic to us. Pick and choose carefully who these people will be and analyze the validity of your compliant before casting the stone of judgment at them.
Our lives are set up in blocks of adventure. We need certain people in our lives for certain reasons to complete those adventures. With the next phase, sometimes comes the next block of friends that perches themselves on our porch. Decide with an open heart before shutting the back door on the ones that are leaving.
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Consis
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posted October 31, 2006 05:03 AM |
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Yup
I agree. I've done this many times in my life . . . and many people have done it to me.
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TitaniumAlloy
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posted October 31, 2006 09:23 AM |
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I'm always the one leaving others behind
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violent_flower
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posted October 31, 2006 02:27 PM |
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I think that we tend to hold onto to the familiar in our lives. If you have known someone for years we will make excuses if they have an addiction, if they suck the life out of us, and even if the treat us less than human. We want to express to others that think we allow ourselves to be used as mud catchers, that Tommy or Susie are just like that and they don’t mean anything by it.
The fact is that as I get older I pick and choose whom I want in my life more carefully. I don’t want to be used or treated as though my life is less important than theirs. I find it liberating to get rid of what ties me behind the “let me screw you again “ truck and drags my limp body through the streets Userville.
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antipaladin
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posted October 31, 2006 03:03 PM |
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well i kindaunderstand u,but im one who learns alasson,i remmber words said by others carefully,once a frinde says so,i think he is not lieing untill i'm proved otherwise,and there allways an EXEMPEL like luck lol..a test to se him truely,as the frinde is,there isent other way to it,.
i did not however understood the point of the post..?
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violent_flower
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posted October 31, 2006 03:46 PM |
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My point is that we all need to weed our garden of lingering friendship that are just not productive or have become toxic to us. Pick and choose carefully who these people will be and analyze the validity of your compliant before casting the stone of judgment at them.
I stated my point in the first post. I think that maybe our language barrier is just preventing you from understanding it.
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friendofgunnar
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posted October 31, 2006 08:31 PM |
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Every year my new year's resolution is the exact same thing:
"No time for losers"
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violent_flower
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posted November 01, 2006 04:19 AM |
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It makes you feel as though you have cleaned out that closet that has just been filling up with crap you don't need.
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Aculias
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posted November 01, 2006 07:03 AM |
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It's sad if there are any victims but people do need to choose thier own paths & sometimes there is nothing you canj do about it.
Determination.
SOmetimes you want somethang so bad or you want to go someplace so bad you can almost taste it.
You need to make sacrafices.
Even when you know it will hurt you.
Sometimes you dont know but your friends & family do.
Just a road people take.
It happens alot & it happened to me too many times for me to count.
It's sad really when you can see the future outcome already when it's bad.
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