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I was going to post this video yesterday after I saw the discussion pertaining to geeks and all that but couldn't figure out how to do it. Now I can since Asheera figured it out for me.
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Well err.. I guess I have low confidence (believe or not!) - But I just think soceity has the pressure on me, all the buddies done it and they all talk about it .. Gaaah! Throw in advices - make me sick! - And then she has done it, gaah, makes me nervous like hell..
Someone said: Whether Emil loves her or she loves him.
Pls.. I've been talking to her for a month and kissing her for a week. We aren't even girlfriend boyfriend yet - and I said: I am not sure if I am in love with her - big difference from I love her.
I am a n00b, to use a nerdish term, I am not sure how in love feels or how love feels. I like spending time with her, I like writing to her, I like to smell her but when we are not together I don't catch myself in missing her that much.. sometimes when I am lying watching TV I do but that could just be boredom?
I am not saying I am going to dumb her but I need more time to fall in love with her... To me this is all about giving it a little more time and spending a little more time with her.
And I am sick of all my friends and her friends, and my family and other people saying: SO IS IT OFFICIAL YET?!
MY answer: No.
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Sounds to me like you're not that attracted to her Emil, but I don't think that's necessarily a problem. I'm not sure if you're in love with her either (how would I know?), but if you enjoy your time with her, it's most likely more love than attraction, which is good IMO.
I explained that before. Think of a parent-child relationship. Any loving parent usually enjoys time with his/her kids, but on the other hand, he doesn't have to be dependent on them. Love is what happens between parent-child, and in couples too, but in couples you also have other stuff like attraction. Fortunately in your case, I think it's lower -- which is good, since attraction can blind people, not love! Love is about CARING for her.
I think that you are not very dependent on her (i.e not really "lost" if you're not with her) which is a good thing, means you're not typical teen-blind by attraction. I think you're doing fine. Enjoy time with her, but also don't make yourself "OMG I can't breathe without her" type. I think you're doing fine
Try to ignore anyone else who annoys you, trust me that's the best way to deal with the situation -- mostly immature machos like to "give advice" that actually is more like "making fun" of someone else. Don't worry, they'll be the ones who later will change their minds or become bored (if you ignore them), not you. Just have patience, that's the thing you have over them. The one who has patience will get better in the end ____________
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Emil, don't care for what they say. People at your age have wild imagination and are telling absolute BS all the time. I'm pretty sure half of your male friends are virgins. Boys start later then girls, even though they talk a lot I actually think most of them never had a GF, too - despite what they say.
And another thing.. peer pressure. Don't succumb to it. Never ever.
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Quote:I actually think most of them never had a GF, too - despite what they say.
I do know, they are my best buddies I think I know a little about them
And It is not that I don't find her attractive.. ? I think she is beautiful..
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posted January 04, 2009 05:44 PM
Quote:And It is not that I don't find her attractive.. ? I think she is beautiful..
That's a different thing.
And buddies are just that... buddies. Would you depend on them if you were in a dire situation? The sooner you realize they aren't truly "friends" but just "buddies", the better it is for YOU.
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yeah. Schooltime buddies usually mean less than dust as soon as you leave school. No matter how "close" you actually seem.. it's just life. Of course exceptions happen.. My best friend is the guy I met in pre-high school. But most of the other people who I considered "friends" were just buds. Forgot about me the next day we finished school and it was mutual.
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posted January 04, 2009 09:23 PM
I think I have only one "true friend" from high-school. The other half of the class... just buddies. (yes I was kinda popular )
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emilsn,
They are not you real friends. Truly saying, you have none. They are all machos who make fun of you, the sooner you realize it, the better for you. Try to ignore them.
Also, you are not in love. You really don't care about her. You're not even attracted. Not let her blind you! You're not really dependent on her.
In fact, you're too young. Be patient, someday you will get better in just by waiting and doing nothing. All in all, that's not necessarily a problem.
I breathe in stupdity and exhale sarcasm
Also have one positive adivce: follow your heart!
Attempts of deep analysis of love always end up with nothing.
We are talking about friends from preschool - I have known some of these people for 10-12 years! They are my best friends - okay a few of them are from highschool but screw them
We must close this discussion till I add something new!
You are confusing me even more...
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posted January 04, 2009 10:05 PM
Seems to me like you're in some kind of denial for some reason. Why?
Some may be. If they annoy you, put pressure and do not 'understand' you the way you are, how can call them your friends? At best, just buddies...
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I suggest you get rid of stupid Hollywood stereotypes
EDIT: maybe they portray "dork" since they always like to go extreme either way, but that is somewhat unrealistic.
(popular doesn't mean 'macho' of course, since I didn't "show off" (lol))
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posted January 04, 2009 10:30 PM
it's about love, not about your buds from high school. We'll see how things go, when they go...
I know I'll probably have 0-2 friends, since one already left and I'm not sure whether that person will even-
Okay, way too OT!
anyway, death, you say there are different types of love and such, but let's say in a completely hypothetical situation that there's this girl that I go out with. We talk with eachother, laugh, hug, kiss, lalala everything that couples do and we're having great fun and even care deeply about eachother. But... Basically, you're telling me that there's no difference in love.
You mean to say that even if I deeply care about her, but simply don't want to move on, the reason would be a lack of attraction? or... Maybe love isn't rational? (remember, hypothesis)
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@mvass: Well of course there could be machos but as long as you ignore them and can stand up firmly, they'll realize it (well, after the first 2 years, those machos "grown up" so to speak in my class and were more... mature, I don't know how to call them, but they dropped their stuff, less frivolous so to speak). Maybe you need some more self-confidence or something. And have them on the list for 'buddies' even if they are just... buddies. Helps a bit.
Dunno how it is in US or in your town though. If you say they say crap like "reading is gay dude" probably, not worth reasoning with them
EDIT: ok sorry for a bit of OT
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Some of these people are going to graduate in May. I don't think they're going to mature any time soon. And I have plenty of self-confidence. If their idiocy starts to bother me, I tell them to shut up and stop being idiots. This has not made me any friends among them, but I don't want any of their kind.
They're about to graduate. How? I'd send them back to elementary school.
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