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selcy
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posted April 04, 2011 04:53 PM |
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I'm sure Meroe will agree with me that you can't say an internet relationship isn't love unless you have been there. All the emotions and feelings are there, the missing them when you are away, jealousy etc and to be honest lots of relationships lack trust but an online one depends on that more. If it wasn't for the paperwork and all the redtape I would be with Acu now.
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Carcity
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posted April 04, 2011 05:41 PM |
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In my opinion, the one major difference with meeting people online and meeting people in person is that you can't touch them or similar. Everything else is there, feelings, trust, everything.
I have some great friends in person who know more about me than I do myself, and they're great. I've also some great friend I've met online (most of them I met here) who know pretty much about me, and whom I know care about me, even though they've never met me.
Meeting someone isn't what creates a relation.
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selcy
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posted April 04, 2011 05:50 PM |
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In my opinion, the one major difference with meeting people online and meeting people in person is that you can't touch them or similar. Everything else is there, feelings, trust, everything.
I have some great friends in person who know more about me than I do myself, and they're great. I've also some great friend I've met online (most of them I met here) who know pretty much about me, and whom I know care about me, even though they've never met me.
Meeting someone isn't what creates a relation.
Well said Carcity I totally agree.
Everyone seems to focus on the negative parts because they are the ones that usually make it in to the newspapers or on the news, "14 year old girl meets 50 year old man off internet after he pretended to be 16 year old boy". You never hear about the success stories. Well I can actually say I am very happy and very much in love  .
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OhforfSake
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posted April 04, 2011 05:51 PM |
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Sweet evinin. I believe you can be truely a good friend! Even after all the stuff me and bliz put you to, without taking into consideration that due to culteral differences, you'd not find it amusing at all, you did not only stick around, but you're actually want to be nice to both of us!
I'm truely sorry to hear about what you've been through. I hope this does not in any way sound arrogant, or disrespectful, I just wonder, how old where you when this friendship was ruined? Why do you let this one person determine that YOU cannot have any good friendships in real life? Don't give her that pleasure, please!
Also, like you I'm rather silent outside the internet. Eventhough it has gotten better the last couple of years, people I engaged with regulary still calls me shy. As such, maybe, what I also have not considered, is that how the person behaves on the internet and how the person behaves in real life can be very different.
In case you have a more regular contact, through web cams, etc. I suppose this change in behaviour evens out. I of course don't know if you'd be as open as you're here, evinin, should this conversation be over webcam, of if you'd be more shy, like around people in real life.
I however am convinced I'd be much more shy, and probably behave much more like I would should we have had this conversation in real life.
I'd like to thank evinin, meroe and nightterror for having contributed! I especially liked meroes post, it was a very very pleasent read! And funny too
I may not have been the nicest to any of you, so I'm really glad you all decided to give your insight.
Also, again, thank you to Warmonger for his idea for the viewpoint of the other side.
Thanks to everyone for their dedication to this topic so far. It's really enjoyable to read!
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selcy
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posted April 04, 2011 06:00 PM |
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Wow Ohforf I'm getting really worried about you your beginning to sound............well...........believe it or not.............. caring hehe  . Who would ever have thought it  .
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OhforfSake
Promising
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Initiate
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posted April 04, 2011 06:07 PM |
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Yes. Maybe you're a bad influence on me, all you new people!
I shall withdraw to my pit, where I once again shall load up on hatred, terror and destructicons!
PS: Don't quote this post
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Fauch
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posted April 04, 2011 06:39 PM |
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it's a lot easier to talk to someone that doesn't actually know you
think so too. at least if they start hating you, it's not like you are living with them.
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If it wasn't for the paperwork and all the redtape I would be with Acu now.
yeah, it confirms what I said, if you are really in love, the distance shouldn't be a problem. I mean, if you aren't ready to move, that might mean your love isn't that strong.
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OhforfSake
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posted April 04, 2011 06:45 PM |
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If it wasn't for the paperwork and all the redtape I would be with Acu now.
yeah, it confirms what I said, if you are really in love, the distance shouldn't be a problem. I mean, if you aren't ready to move, that might mean your love isn't that strong.
It was so spot on, at least to selcy and aculias' situation, that it was a little eerie to be honest.
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Shyranis
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posted April 05, 2011 10:10 PM |
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I find it difficult to form a proper opinion in this thread.
I am sorry.
Maybe I'll think of something intelligent later.
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selcy
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posted April 05, 2011 10:12 PM |
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If it wasn't for the paperwork and all the redtape I would be with Acu now.
yeah, it confirms what I said, if you are really in love, the distance shouldn't be a problem. I mean, if you aren't ready to move, that might mean your love isn't that strong.
It was so spot on, at least to selcy and aculias' situation, that it was a little eerie to be honest.
What did you mean by that Ohforf?
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OhforfSake
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posted April 05, 2011 10:19 PM |
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@selcy
Let me say it like this. Fauch can sometimes... maybe seem like... he has come with the conclusion before knowing the question (sorry Fauch, I mean no offense and think you're one of the better posters of OSM, and Heroes Community!). In this case however, it seemed like what he described, which you later replied to fit very very well. Which I found a little spooky. That's really all there is to it!
Maybe I was out of line? In that case, I apologise
@shyranis
I'm certain someone with a brain like yours will find something to say, but if you don't that's also cool! I really appreciate that you at least took the time to check the thread out!
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selcy
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posted April 05, 2011 10:27 PM |
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No thats fine. We should stop apologising to each other and have fun lol .
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Yaeliccc
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Undead, but warm and fuzzy
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posted April 06, 2011 11:18 AM |
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My opinion: I am no expert on relationships or emotions, but I cannot see why what once only were over the internet cannot evolve into something that is equivalent to what people in real life have?
I'd like to compare each of them, as I imagine them, in arbitrary decided steps:
Real life:
1) You find someone on a date. You find out you can talk with eachother and the first impression is good.
2) You either have sex or decide to see eachother again.
3) Eventually you decide you like eachother so much that you cannot stand not seeing eachother. So you start a relationship.
4) You've sex all the time.
5) The sex gets boring and you start to know eachother a lot better, this time without the emotional curtain that comes through looks, gender, money, smell, society, etc.
Internet:
1) You are not intended on a relationship as such you get to know eachother very well, without the influence of looks, gender, money, smell, society, etc. (Basicly step 5 for real life)
2) You decide that you like eachother so much that you cannot stand not seeing eachother and decide to try having a relationship (Basicly step 3).
3) You find out you also fit well for eachother in real life.
4) Depending on distance, you meet more and more often until you are really really sure that it should be two of you.
5) You've sex all the time.
So in conclusion, I think that eventhough the paths are different, both can ultimately lead to the same great thing.
Oh my, this is like the continuation of the thread that had that creep in it 
Moi :
Never had an online romantic experience of any kind, including chatting/skyping/webcamming if its a word at all, matter of fact dont even have any of those on my PC.
Believe that the real life is the preferable one but after all it is an individual preference, even if considering online relationship I feel it shouldn't be an online relationship but more of a using the internet as a stepping stone for real life, thats why i think if engaging in such relationship one should do so at least in his own country if not his town.
Words are strong, but human touch is much stronger, with the small gesture of holding someones hand u say more than u can ever say over the internet, thats how I feel, and even though internet might become intense and emotional, unless you take it into the real life and fast it is doomed to fade away.
With all that being said, It is important to know yourself, the way others feel or think shouldn't have that much of an impact on you, as long as you're doing what you feel is right for you, u wont have regrets and even if u get hurt or make mistakes thats what experience is all about after all.
You go get her/him and fall in love ASAP, thats an order
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Fauch
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posted April 06, 2011 04:55 PM |
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Edited by Fauch at 16:55, 06 Apr 2011.
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Words are strong, but human touch is much stronger, with the small gesture of holding someones hand u say more than u can ever say over the internet
maybe I have a wrong perception, but for many couples it doesn't seem to say much. you see many lovers who don't seem to actually love each other. they are walking together, holding each other hand, but just looking at their eyes, it seems they aren't really together, they are both lost in their own thoughts.
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yaeliccc
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posted April 07, 2011 12:50 AM |
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Words are strong, but human touch is much stronger, with the small gesture of holding someones hand u say more than u can ever say over the internet
maybe I have a wrong perception, but for many couples it doesn't seem to say much. you see many lovers who don't seem to actually love each other. they are walking together, holding each other hand, but just looking at their eyes, it seems they aren't really together, they are both lost in their own thoughts.
ehmm... dont know who u are but if u claim something like that i assure u, u have yet to fully fall in love with anyone and to receive love back... once that happens, once u cant see your life without that special person u will understand my phrase.
In the mean time look at it like this
I said - 1 picture is worth 1000 words
U answered - for many pictures it doesnt seem to say much as i have seen many meaningless pictures in my life
the concept is to understand what it MEANS and not to literally understand what it says, but if u dont get the anology, then u just dont get it.
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Fauch
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Undefeatable Hero
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posted April 07, 2011 01:12 AM |
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for many pictures it doesnt seem to say much as i have seen many meaningless pictures in my life
true.
no, I'm not saying you are wrong, but it's something I rarely see, personnally
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mariopepper
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posted June 07, 2019 06:52 PM |
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Edited by Corribus at 04:36, 01 Aug 2019.
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Mod Edit: Bot Post Removed
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Oddball13579
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posted July 01, 2019 04:41 AM |
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Oh look another bot, advertising porn/dating sites. They truly have evolved and become more powerful.
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Elvin
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posted July 01, 2019 07:21 AM |
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At least now I know why ohforf didn't return. Destructicons are awesome.
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tSar-Ivor
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posted July 01, 2019 08:52 AM |
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Can you please advise on dating sites for metrosexuals please.
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