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Oldtimer
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posted February 10, 2002 10:34 PM |
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Okay, you knew I was going to pop in.
1. You are an attractive young girl with interests that might appeal to young men.(Love of fantasy lit & gaming) Not that many girls are into this so you have a leg up when looking for a guy with similiar interests. One problem, a lot of the guys who have these interests are "geeky" and intimidated and shy around attractive girls. So you might have to be the more aggressive one.
2. You need to find something that you really enjoy doing and find others who also enjoy doing the activity. The number one priority is to have fun. Guys like to hang out with girls who are having fun. So if you are at a place doing an activity that you enjoy, someone with similiar interest will probably approach you.
3. Don't try to find someone in a bar, all that guy wants is a warm body for the evening, (also its hard to find someone in the supermarket without looking like a streetwalker).
4. Don't bring any drama into the social relationship. The last thing a guy wants to hear is complaining about lost loves, bad past times, and personal problems. (Save those things for your girlfriends, remember guys are not your girlfriends and if you give them a problem they will try to solve it and all you wanted was for them to listen to you.)
5. If you like a guy, pay attention to him but don't fawn over him. (Girls that treat you too good, quickly become annoying and clingy, and soon a guy will start looking for someone who is more of an equal).
6. Remember that the jerks who only want in your pants will keep you around and abuse you until you can't stand it anymore, then they will move on.
7. Never give someone a second chance to be an abusive boyfriend/husband. (Men who abuse women will not change and life is too short to waste it on a waste of humanity)
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Milena
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in supreme disgrace
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posted February 10, 2002 10:40 PM |
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I'm just going to quote the Goo Goo Dolls
"when everything feels like the movies,
yeah you bleed just to know you're alive"
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malkia
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Famous Hero
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posted February 10, 2002 10:50 PM |
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Milena...
Varna is full of people going to this fantasy channel - #ankh-morpork (servers: irc.ntrl.net or irc.spnet.net), also try #amber ... Lots of people there probably with the same interrests as you, and they are from Varna. They are meeting often I think - at least every week or two - there is a topic saying that they'll gonna meet somewhere. And most of the time meetings are in Varna.
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Milena
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in supreme disgrace
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posted February 10, 2002 11:09 PM |
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Edited By: Milena on 10 Feb 2002
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Tnx, malkia
I will d/l IRC and try it out.
P.S. Now the trouble is to figure out how to say stuff and let people reply. *laughs*
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frenzie
Adventuring Hero
off with the faeries
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posted February 11, 2002 12:25 AM |
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Ive been chatting on irc for about 6 years now, started when i finished high school. Ive met sooooo many people from there and still do.
I chat on a relatively small network, the oz.org network which is an australian one.
Try and find a network local to you, like dont hook up online and start chatting to americans if meeting new people is what you are after.
but do be careful as always there are freaks everywhere.
On other advise, you need to find happiness in yoruself before finding happiness in another, do not go into a relationship because you have a hole to feel, another person should never fill yourself.
It sounds pretty horrible having your friends leave to study and having no body else around, i too had that a few years ago, lost all my friends cause i moved and got into new interests, for a while it was just me and my boyfriend and i got fairly depressed at having no one to go out with and no one to invite me anywhere as work people were just that, work people.
I ended up meeting some people from a fire twirling website and meeting up with them to practice and hang out, and it all went uphill from there and they are my really good friends now.
Think about what social sports/activities that you like doing and take it from there, perhaps find an irc channel on it, or a website that has forums that you could see about people meeting up, or sports, just try and join a club, or team, or even go and do yoga/pottery/photography or something that you like at a local college, we have a community college in sydney that runs courses for 6 weeks that are pretty cheap and you can meet people there.
There is no easy way to meet people. whether it be as friends or more. I guess too, try and go into these thigns as friends, my bf and I were friends before we got together and always will be friends. Its important to base your relationship on something like that, not sex or just physical attraction, those sort of things never last....
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Aculias
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Pretty Boy Angel Sacraficer
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posted February 11, 2002 02:36 AM |
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I see what you are saying so I will say this.
Help me on this topic to because I have the exact same problem as she does.
Is';nt going online or doing the channel thing risky.
Heeeel
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RMS
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-ing yummy foods
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posted February 11, 2002 03:56 AM |
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...my advice is never to give advice or you may some day regret that you did...
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Cat
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Gonna Get Dirrty...
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posted February 11, 2002 10:01 AM |
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Milena and Aculias,
Yes, it does sound a bit risky. And this may sound a bit insensitive, but have either of you ever been truely happy with yourselves when you are single, or are you just constantly looking for somebody? Because if you never bother to take time to just be happy being single, you will never really attract the people you want. If you are happy in yourself and with yourself (I have mates who can vouch for this!) you will eventualy find somebody who worships you and thinks you are the best person in the world.
Aculias' problem seems to be that he trys to hard and wears his heart on his sleeve and then goes out with women he has nothing in common with. Don't do that! Find someone who loves hotseat games and also loves one other really stupid thing you do and above all who is clever because otherwise she will bore you to death, lets face it. If anyone doesn't want you, it' coz they know they are not good enough, right?
Milena- I think trawling all over the internet is just punishing yourself... why bother? Maybe join a few clubs like, I dunno, self-defence or something or basket weaving or anything that will help you make new friends in your area. Sounds like you don't just want a guy but you also miss all your mates a whole lot! When you have people to hang out with and they think you are FAB, then I'm sure one of them might be more than a friend, you know?
But you are both great and deserve lots of admirirers standing below your windows with roses and guitars!!
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 Diwethaf Gloau Sylw y Gymreag
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Milena
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in supreme disgrace
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posted February 11, 2002 05:17 PM |
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Imagine Cat...
I can't find boys gamers here at all!! I tell them Heroes and they look at me as if I'm an alien. I drop an English word and all they think is snob. Not to mention they all think I'm too fat for their taste.
it's not about fidning a warm body in your bed. It's the point of finding your real missing half.
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SubZero
Adventuring Hero
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posted February 11, 2002 05:30 PM |
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OT is killing me...
with his advices.
He sounds like some sort of lovedoctor.
Hey, there's new nickname for him...
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Milena
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in supreme disgrace
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posted February 11, 2002 05:32 PM |
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BTW, malkia,
these turned out to be complete jerks! i was trying to be joking because I was new to IRC and didn't know how to handle it but they were rude and arrogant and they pissed me off (one almost called me a prostitute). I wonder: they are supposed to be in a fantasy channel and they don't know what fantasy is!
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ShadowLord
Promising
Famous Hero
of Dope
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posted February 11, 2002 07:00 PM |
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Milena: No offense but you really need a real life, do not waste your time in cyberspace and get stoned in your room. You gotta do what you think would help you. Start going out hangout in a mall or something. Try going to bowling clubs, play some sports. Keep away from your computer, your missing a lot!
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Lord_Woock
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posted February 11, 2002 07:36 PM |
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Ok, here's my two cents...
Imagine you are a man/boy/other_word_for_male_human (I know it might be difficult, but try it!). Then try to think of a way you would like a girl to show you she's interested in you. Now, the only thing left to do is use that way!
Oh, another rule. You might end up choosing a guy who is, in some ways, like me. Those guys wouldn't say you're serious if you'd just come by and say "I like/love/some_other_word_that_fits_here you.". The guys I'm talking about prefer the other side to use a more finesse way.
You may ignore the second "rule", because "who would believe a 13 year old in a matter like this?". Maybe this is total bullsnow, but it helped me get rid of two "barbie styles".
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Cat
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Gonna Get Dirrty...
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posted February 11, 2002 09:42 PM |
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Milena
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in supreme disgrace
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posted February 11, 2002 09:50 PM |
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Cat
when you hear how fat you are 10 times a day and when you can't stop thinking of food and when NO pants you have you can get in, then you are fat.
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Wesley
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banned
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posted February 11, 2002 09:58 PM |
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MIlena..
Ignore those messages of being to fat!
I get to hear i'm to THIN all my life!
I just ignore it....
Also your not fat at all!
And let me guess what kind of guys call you fat.
Those guys are first class to IGNORE!
They just watch to many *PIEP!* sorry.. I won't say that word again.
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Milena
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in supreme disgrace
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posted February 11, 2002 10:01 PM |
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You won't believe who calls me fat
and i better not say it here but that person may read it...
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Milena
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Cat
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Supreme Hero
Gonna Get Dirrty...
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posted February 11, 2002 10:06 PM |
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Milena
You are about as fat as I am (ie not at all!)! Anyone who says you are fat is just jealous. And some of the most beautiful women in the world (ie Mia Tyler) used to be called 'fat', so hold your head up high girl! They were probably saying you were FAB and you heard them wrong. And as for pants (that means trousers, right?) I don't fit in mine for 7days in a month and I'm a british size 8 (american 5, isn't it?) so I honestly wouldn't worry about it! wear a corset and watch everyones jaw hit the floor!!
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Diwethaf Gloau Sylw y Gymreag
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Wesley
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Famous Hero
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posted February 11, 2002 10:12 PM |
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I don't care who calles you fat.
I say your not fat at all!
And that's the way it stays!
Many guys always complain about girls..
But they are much more ugly then them! There is NO guy that is prettier then even the uglies girl on this earth!
OOPS now I guess all guys are mad on me!
WHATEVER!!!! I just like girls more! (DUH)
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Cat
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Supreme Hero
Gonna Get Dirrty...
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posted February 11, 2002 10:15 PM |
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Yeah!
Wes is right!
Any men who have nothing nice to say feel inferior! Or jealous! Or are plain mean!
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Diwethaf Gloau Sylw y Gymreag
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