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Heroes Community > Tavern of the Rising Sun > Thread: Share the secrets about dating
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Dragon_Slayer
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toss toss toss
posted May 05, 2012 02:59 PM

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Kissing?  Meh.  Just get to the good stuff.


Good advice here
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fauch
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posted May 06, 2012 03:17 AM
Edited by fauch at 03:19, 06 May 2012.

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Searching for one is the easiest path to, well, your doom

you probably know about that

I'm actually wondering if the word "love" (I mean, as it is usually defined today) isn't actually newspeak created for this goal? it's one of the most powerful word and can totally brainwash people. perfect weapon for propaganda.

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OhforfSake
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posted May 06, 2012 04:02 PM


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DagothGares
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posted May 07, 2012 12:55 AM

Club on head. Drag in cave.
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blizzardboy
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posted May 07, 2012 02:25 AM

I would recommend information at this site for a helpful foundation on how to properly acquire women.
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Darkshadow
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posted May 07, 2012 07:41 AM

Anesthesia for surgery?



What a ridiculous notion.

i'll let myself out...
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emilsn
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posted May 07, 2012 01:37 PM

Somehow OFsake seems to have all the good arguments

*goes to the ladies room*
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Salamandre
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posted May 08, 2012 12:10 PM

You can also raise your chances by getting the brutal six pack abs in just few seconds!

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wog_edn
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posted May 08, 2012 12:28 PM

There is no secret, the only thing needed is confidence and then the rest will follow
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OhforfSake
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posted May 08, 2012 01:22 PM

To be honest, it's hard to read the mind of other people. I smile a lot and people smile back, sometimes girls flirt with me (I think) and sometimes they blush, but in the end, nothing changes. It's probably expected to be up to me to do something, but I honestly think that only a small percentage of people, who are friendlier than I expect (even flirting), or show more emotion than I expect (e.g. blushing), would actually consider giving a relationship a chance (because I'm both stupid and ugly). I don't blame people for trying to get others to like them through whatever means they use, and I don't blame them for giving false hope. In principle there's no hope, when all I do is being friendly back, smile and show interest in them. Because to go to the next step it'd require to actually ask about the possibility of spending time together outside of where you met and I'd never have the courage to do that.
In the end, it's nice to get the false believe that people are into you, but it's also a bit depressing in the sense that one will unhelpfully spend a lot of time considering others in situations were you really just should focus on your own priorities.

No one is alone with this stuff, and like Wog said, confidence is probably what separates me from him (and his gigantic wood as well, but I think that's a private matter).

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Tsar-Ivor
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posted May 08, 2012 01:30 PM
Edited by Tsar-Ivor at 13:32, 08 May 2012.

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(because I'm both stupid and ugly)


Matter of perspective, besides it helps to think that the girl herself is thinking the EXACT same thing (sadly it's true) you've noticed them, a total stranger has taken intrest where people she's probably known for months-years have not. It's faith and hope restoring medication, even if it bore no 'obvious' fruit.

I personally love the chase, don't see how anyone can enter a relationship and hope for it to last without a bit of magic to kick-start it.
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OhforfSake
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posted May 08, 2012 02:31 PM

Well that's what I'm saying, isn't it? I see signs which I'd expect to see by someone who's romanticly interested, but the signs are for different reasons and in the end there never was any chance for anything intimate (at that point in time).

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fauch
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posted May 08, 2012 02:49 PM
Edited by fauch at 14:55, 08 May 2012.

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In principle there's no hope, when all I do is being friendly back, smile and show interest in them. Because to go to the next step it'd require to actually ask about the possibility of spending time together outside of where you met and I'd never have the courage to do that.


I'm kinda like that, though I don't know if it's lack of confidence. usually I just don't think about it. I have a nice time with someone, and it's only once she's gone that I think that I should have asked.

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Tsar-Ivor
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posted May 08, 2012 02:52 PM
Edited by Tsar-Ivor at 15:00, 08 May 2012.

Actually I determined the cause when this happened to me. It's the theory of the 'point of no return', while you attempt harmless flirting, it can easily dismissed, but once you've made a 'move', there's no going back. (we are all aware of this subconsciously) So you wrestle yourself whether you should or should not do it, and in the end once you made up your mind (if you have) it's over.


I'll take the harmless flirting and use the joy from that to fuel my day, rather than wrestle with myself .
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fauch
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posted May 08, 2012 03:00 PM

I wasn't even talking about anything intimate

how am I even supposed to know if I want something intimate?
do you really think our body send us a signal? (I suppose you aren't just talking about sex, because of course, the signal for sex is quite obvious )

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Tsar-Ivor
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posted May 08, 2012 03:04 PM
Edited by Tsar-Ivor at 15:11, 08 May 2012.

Wait, who's talking about sex or anything of the sort?

First you gotta get the girl, you're going way too fast lad.
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Tsar-Ivor
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posted May 08, 2012 03:48 PM

Leap of faith?
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fauch
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posted May 08, 2012 07:24 PM

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Regarding what you want, and how you're supposed to know. That's a good question, a really good one and I sadly have no answer.

well, obviously, a girlfriend isn't necessary to live, but sometimes you think that you would really like one anyway. but I actually wonder if it's a real need, or a need that was created by the environment? all the songs, the movies talk about how marvellous "love" is (what does "love" actually mean? it seems to mean whatever you want as long as calling it "love" makes you feel better about it) everyone seem totally obsessed by love, and I wonder if it creates a false certainty that we need "love" while we really may not. of course here, we are talking about "love" between a man and a woman, with all those weird ideas like mariage. "love" can apply to a lot of things, but we are obsessed about a very specific form of "love" and feel like we can't live without it. it is very likely that we need "love", but why do we focus only on a very specific aspect of "love"?

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Edit: There's also the thing that I'm usually not interested (my "type" is very defined [and quite different from most other guys, I think], so if there's not interaction I'll usually not even consider said person in the given light) until she semi-flirts with me (at least that is what I'm thinking) and suddenly I'm so easy that I start considering if she's into me and then I get into her. But in reality she isn't and it only changes that I went from happy about seeing her as a friend into seeing her as something potentially more and gets frustrated.

we can just be so stupid sometimes. problems seem to begin with labelling people. had you not think anything about her attitude, there would have been no problem, but you labelled it, and now you have an image of her which contradicts the reality and as long as you refuse to break the image and accept the truth, you are going to suffer.

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fauch
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posted May 09, 2012 01:35 AM

and if you ever see her as she really is, you'll most likely wonder why the hell you ever wanted a relationship with her

when you stop being in love, do you also wonder why you actually were in love and if you were being totally crazy?

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but I too dislike the idea of commitment, which is one reason I'd probably be a terrible life partner anyway.

commitment... it's a weird thing. if 2 people truly love each other, why would be a commitment needed??

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fauch
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posted May 09, 2012 09:02 PM

sometimes I wonder if all teenage girls fill their facebook accounts with quotes about love?

well, seeing how you talk here, you need either a very childish girl, or a very serious one

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