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fred79
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posted July 23, 2014 12:53 AM |
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markkur
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Once upon a time
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posted July 23, 2014 03:06 AM |
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With my kids; when they asked I shared. No matter what death ends up being, I think it far better to teach them that tomorrow is not promised to anyone. To me the real bummer about death is thinking of the complete separation and that will be true no matter what happens. I've seen too many people that when they lost a loved one they reacted as if they should have known to reach out more but didn't. Very sad.
Btw, when my son asked about Death after his dog was killed. I told him; try to look at this way, you've had an important lesson in life by losing Rambo. When my dog died it helped me to realize to love my family and friends while I can.
That was not harsh...he got it.
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OmegaDestroyer
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posted July 23, 2014 04:00 PM |
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Corribus said:
What do you all think?
I do not think you were in error having a conversation with your child about death. Death is a natural part of life and like most things, early education is essential for understanding and coping.
My father is a funeral director. I have been exposed to death from a very early age (which may explain a lot...) more-so than a lot of people. Fortunately, I did not grow up in a war-torn area and witnessed horrific death. My exposure was to the preservation, grieving, familial, and societal implications of death. Often conversations at dinner included mentions of who had passed away in our community and that person's legacy. I got teased quite a bit for my father's profession by my peers growing up, which makes little sense in hindsight. I suspect people did not know how to properly react to the concept of death. I believe early exposure helped me understand death, its ramifications, and how to cope with an essential part of life.
Anyways, going back to your situation Corribus, again, I do not believe you were in the wrong. It is a parent's duty to educate their children about life and that includes death.
Crud. Gotta go. I will add more in a bit.
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JoonasTo
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What if Elvin was female?
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posted July 23, 2014 06:25 PM |
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I think your friend/colleague is an idiot.
Is it a she btw? Because this sounds like a total kneejerk reaction:
*Dramatic inhale: "You can't do thaaaat!"
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OhforfSake
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posted September 05, 2014 01:47 PM |
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Sorry about this very late bump. I didn't see the thread before now.
I can tell from a personal experience that I wasn't ready to be told about death when I was 9 years old, but I know I lost a lot of close family members when I were 3, I even saw some of them shortly before they passed. Therefore I think I was told about it when I was 3 and I didn't have the same stress about it back then.
I think it's not as much a matter of age. In stead I think whether someones is ready to hear about death depends on the person in question.
Please forgive me for being blunt, but you (corribus) does seem to have a pretty leveled head with this sort of things, so while I've absolutely no knowledge about your personal life or those close to you, that is friends and family, I'd imagine your children would have a good chance of being level headed as well. But I guess that may be an oversimplification, because while my parents are very accepting about death, I fear it more than anything.
After reading most parts of the thread that is on the subject, I think veco's suggestion is very praiseworthy.
veco said:
I always thought the appropriate way was to ask what kid thinks about it first and then go along with them probing wether you should just leave the subject as is (if it gets emotional) or you can actually start explaining it.
In summary, I doubt you did anything wrong, but I think only you yourself have the possibility to know for sure.
PS: About the comment on euthanasia.
Corribus said:
[the hardship of confronting ones own mortality] is evident from [...] to our bizarre and frankly tragic refusal to seriously consider the merits of euthanasia.
While probably off-topic, I'd just like to point out that the problem with euthanasia, in my opinion, isn't death itself as much as it is the procedure.
It's my opinion that everyone has the right to commit suicide, however much I may dislike it. But I do not think anyone has the right to get someone else to the job.
No matter if it is the justice system or a doctor, I do not think anyone should be forced to take someone else's life.
Surely it's going out of a slippery slope to think someone would be forced to do so, but to make a proper commentary on it, I'll have to go into more detail than I think I should.
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