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Blizzardman
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posted December 02, 2016 03:51 AM |
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When youre angry and say something that felt good at the time.
And then the rush subsides, you reflect back, and you think, "I am such a duckhead."
Please share said experiences.
Today was less than ideal.
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Kipshasz
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posted December 02, 2016 07:18 AM |
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I didn't understood the question.
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fred79
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posted December 02, 2016 09:30 AM |
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Edited by fred79 at 09:32, 02 Dec 2016.
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i never regret anything i say out of anger. usually, if i say something mean to a person, they deserve it. if i'm just having a bad day and my panties are in a wad, i make it up to them. if they're somebody i care about, anyway. if they're not somebody i care about, i couldn't give a rat's ass. i could just as easily push them off a cliff, as berate them.
edit: found out that the word "berate" already stands for a verbal affront, so i didn't need the word "verbally". 
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artu
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My BS sensor is tingling again
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posted December 02, 2016 09:34 AM |
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So, you can be a jerk to someone and it makes it all right just because you don't know them well enough. Knowing you, you'd rant about it if the same thing was done to you.
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fred79
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posted December 02, 2016 09:39 AM |
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artu said:
So, you can be a jerk to someone and it makes it all right just because you don't know them well enough. Knowing you, you'd rant about it if the same thing was done to you.
you misunderstand. if i let myself go on someone i didn't know, they'd have to be deserving of it. i don't go off on complete strangers unless they've done something actually wrong. i only go off on people i care about sometimes, when they're doing something stupid when i'm in a bad mood. i always make it up to them, since i know they weren't actually the problem. i think they understand this, too. if you knew my family, you'd know that we can be at each others' throats one second, and be laughing and fine the next. we get along that way. our love is stronger than the other emotions.
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Elvin
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Endless Revival
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posted December 02, 2016 09:45 AM |
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Edited by Elvin at 09:47, 02 Dec 2016.
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Most of my anger is focused on people I am close to, usually related to their accidentally screwing me over or being really stupid. Sometimes I regret it, the rest I feel it is the least I could have done.
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OhforfSake
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Initiate
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posted December 02, 2016 03:46 PM |
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Elvin said:
accidentally screwing me
I accidentally took that literally.
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tSar-Ivor
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posted December 02, 2016 04:00 PM |
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Man I remember once I just finished grinding two grams of weed, and my bro wanted to borrow my lighter then sweeps all my dank onto the floor with his jacket.
My anger was quite something, had to dig pubes out of my herbs for a good 10 min.
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markkur
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Once upon a time
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posted December 02, 2016 04:13 PM |
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I was a slow pot of water to boil but then would explode in intense vitriol. I try and manage to never be angry that way. It never seemed to change anything to erupt but rather now I get angry in point-blank non-verbal's. Seems to have more effect, although nothing really works to reverse the calamities around me. People that are going to do what they do, are going to do what they do. It's like Fate man.
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Homer171
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posted December 02, 2016 06:42 PM |
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Fred, first you said that you never regret what you say, then you say if they have been stupid and you are in a bad mood, then they deserve some harsh words? Being in a bad mood is opposite to good mood and the behaviour can't be good then either. Don't say this as I would not have bad days and moments, but what makes the actions good or bad if you have no regret, aren't they neutral then if can't feel sorry about them?
Not trying to be nitpick, just trying to understand your logic dude.
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fred79
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posted December 02, 2016 06:59 PM |
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Homer171 said:
Fred, first you said that you never regret what you say, then you say if they have been stupid and you are in a bad mood, then they deserve some harsh words? Being in a bad mood is opposite to good mood and the behaviour can't be good then either. Don't say this as I would not have bad days and moments, but what makes the actions good or bad if you have no regret, aren't they neutral then if can't feel sorry about them?
Not trying to be nitpick, just trying to understand your logic dude.
i don't regret my anger, but i make amends because it makes the other person feel better. i do this if/because i care about them, and because i understand how they would feel.
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Homer171
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posted December 02, 2016 07:13 PM |
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If you are making them fill better afterwards, then that's action of making up for the mistake. If there was no mistake on your behalf, then you are just sugar coating it as there where no place for apology in begin with in your opinion. Sure, we say sorry sometimes even tough we don't see anything wrong in our actions just that the person is upset but it can't always be like that, now can it?
I bet, you do feel sorry if you hurt your love ones, intentional or not.
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fred79
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posted December 02, 2016 07:23 PM |
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Homer171 said:
I bet, you do feel sorry if you hurt your love ones, intentional or not.
they get angry or offended maybe, but not hurt. i have a hard time believing any of us get hurt by what we say. we're constantly ripping on each other good-naturedly; we have pretty thick skins in that aspect. we've come to see each other's actual anger as something that comes with the territory. for the most part, anyway. we live in a pretty aggressive household; we almost always have. i don't mind if my family lashes out when they feel angry, because i know they'll make up for it afterward, just like i do. you gotta let the anger out, to stay healthy. bottling that stuff up can kill you or others, if you let it grow too much.
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AlHazin
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النور
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posted December 02, 2016 07:58 PM |
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fred79 said:
we're constantly ripping on each other good-naturedly; we have pretty thick skins in that aspect.
Interesting family.
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Salamandre
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Wog refugee
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posted December 02, 2016 07:58 PM |
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All the posts where I was thinking I have a point while going passionate, I find them worthless and dumb a few weeks later. If I could, I would delete all my posts outside the Era forum. Yet I keep posting when challenged, which proves dumbness is a permanent state.
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AlHazin
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النور
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posted December 02, 2016 08:06 PM |
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Edited by AlHazin at 20:58, 02 Dec 2016.
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No, keep on going Sal, I like your style.
Life is a dream, and afterlife is wakefulness, and death in mean*, and we are in pipe dreams, who judged himself has won, and who drowsed about it has lost, and who watched to the consequences has escaped, and who followed his passions has gone misleaded, and who dreamed looted, and who feared kept safe, and who considered saw, and who saw understood, and who understood knew, and who knew worked...
So if you mistook, get back,
and if you regreted, get off,
and if you ignored, ask,
and if you got angry, restrain.
*mean : like something in between.
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Nothing of value disappears from this world, it will reappear in some shape or form ^^ - Elvin
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Homer171
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posted December 02, 2016 09:16 PM |
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Well, you asked to share. Two days ago I called my wife a snow. Now, I don't use that kinda language towards any woman, specially not my wife. Thing that got me mad was silly, she where comblaining that I don't never listen to her and that I don't understand her. "My sister understands me, my friend understands me, [her ex name] understands me.
I got so furious, how can you talk with your ex what's troubling you, and not with me! What an earth are you speaking with him anyway, you ***.
Now, there should be nothing to be jelous about, we have been married 7 years and all her past is in the past. I understand why I got angry, you just don't say stuff like that. Still, overreacted big time. I shame what I say but the feeling was quite real. We talked with my friend about this and he said he understands me completely here. It was not calling dirty names over argument or fight. It was reaction on inpact and nothing more. Well, nobody is perfect could say, I felt like a idiot for sure.
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fred79
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posted December 02, 2016 09:24 PM |
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you have a point though, homer. if your wife doesn't feel comfortable coming to you about any issues there may be in the relationship, then that's a problem that needs addressing(though, not by calling her names. leave the name calling for the bedroom ). if she can't feel like she can talk to you about anything, then you could very well lose her in the long run; because that's chink in the armor that could lead to a collapse in the stability of the relationship. one thing will always lead to another. if she finds comfort in people besides yourself, especially regarding personal issues between you two, that's a red flag, man. you need to let her know that she can tell you anything and feel safe and secure in the knowledge that you'll do your best to help iron out whatever it is that is troubling her.
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Homer171
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posted December 02, 2016 10:01 PM |
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Edited by Homer171 at 22:02, 02 Dec 2016.
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I hear ya' dude.
We aren't in best shape but been worse and this is nothing we can't fix. I just have not given the time she needs to her resently. I do it time and time again, close the ones near to me. Some kinda /caveman mode if you know what I mean.
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Baronus
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posted December 02, 2016 10:13 PM |
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Yes if you are angry better is silence. Short time and you are normal.
But angry mybe because you see gret victim and unjustice. Eg. harming kids. In this case be angry is correct ofcourse.
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