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NoobX
NoobX


Promising
Legendary Hero
posted July 05, 2018 11:33 PM

Poll Question:
Birthday parties can be useful...

...to get drunk enough to:
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Responses:
...Amplify all the hurt I've gone through because of my ex
I'm sorry for this
It's just really bad
When will it finally end?
I'm gonna regret this when I get sober
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NoobX
NoobX


Promising
Legendary Hero
posted July 06, 2018 02:25 AM

Whoever voted got it right.
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Drakon-Deus
Drakon-Deus


Legendary Hero
posted July 06, 2018 05:53 AM

“Why are you drinking? - the little prince asked.
- In order to forget - replied the drunkard.
- To forget what? - inquired the little prince, who was already feeling sorry for him.
- To forget that I am ashamed - the drunkard confessed, hanging his head.
- Ashamed of what? - asked the little prince who wanted to help him.
- Ashamed of drinking! - concluded the drunkard, withdrawing into total silence.
And the little prince went away, puzzled.
'Grown-ups really are very, very odd', he said to himself as he continued his journey.”

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Tsar-ivor
Tsar-ivor


Promising
Legendary Hero
Soli deo gloria
posted July 06, 2018 02:26 PM

Lol just read the first and went ye that's it, no point reading the others.

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frostymuaddib
frostymuaddib


Promising
Supreme Hero
育碧是白痴
posted July 06, 2018 05:01 PM

Getting drunk for summer holidays?
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NoobX
NoobX


Promising
Legendary Hero
posted July 06, 2018 05:24 PM

There were worst cases yesterday, but it's really no surprise since we've basically wasted liters and liters of rakija, not to mention beer and wine.  
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Neraus
Neraus


Promising
Legendary Hero
Pizza Nazi
posted July 06, 2018 06:11 PM

NoobX said:
Whoever voted got it right.


I hear you man, it's just so damn hard sometimes.
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frostymuaddib
frostymuaddib


Promising
Supreme Hero
育碧是白痴
posted July 06, 2018 06:15 PM

NoobX said:
There were worst cases yesterday, but it's really no surprise since we've basically wasted liters and liters of rakija, not to mention beer and wine.  


Niiice
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Stevie
Stevie


Responsible
Undefeatable Hero
posted July 06, 2018 10:36 PM

Neraus said:
NoobX said:
Whoever voted got it right.


I hear you man, it's just so damn hard sometimes.


It is, but it goes away eventually. I've learned to trust time on that. If you're lucky enough, someone comes along and makes you forget.
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NoobX
NoobX


Promising
Legendary Hero
posted July 06, 2018 10:57 PM

It would be really appreciated if I didn't have to go through all of that whilst attending lectures or studying for exams because it's quite obvious that my attention is grabbed by something other than that, which not only does bring me emotional pain, but also hinders me in my studies.  I am still trying to pinpoint the exact reason why my pain still holds, and I've made some guesses, but none are conclusive, and none seem to provide any obvious way of dealing with it.
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frostymuaddib
frostymuaddib


Promising
Supreme Hero
育碧是白痴
posted July 07, 2018 12:23 AM

Noobx, I think that's just natural way of thing. I went through same thing, and survived. In the end, I regret only the things that didn't happen (missed opportunities) than the things that happen.
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Elvin
Elvin


Admirable
Omnipresent Hero
What if Elvin was female?
posted July 07, 2018 10:08 AM
Edited by Elvin at 10:11, 07 Jul 2018.

Don't try to rationalize it, you're only setting up yourself for.. more of the same. If only we could turn off our feelings but wouldn't that be too easy.

Keep calm and take things in stride, you'll see the sun again.

I love this song, fitting for the occasion too.
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So you're saying.. the dead are rising from their graves?
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Stevie
Stevie


Responsible
Undefeatable Hero
posted July 07, 2018 10:21 AM

Are you saying you had a girlfriend at some point, Elvin?
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NoobX
NoobX


Promising
Legendary Hero
posted July 07, 2018 10:57 AM

But wouldn't rationalizing it actually help?  I mean, when something occurs and we don't know how to cope with it, we tend to rationalize, just like the first humans did with thunder, or earthquakes, or any natural phenomena that they ascribed to a powerful entity in order to provide an answer which would help them cope with its existence.  Knowledge is power, and the more we know, the better we feel in general because we can predict the outcomes with more accuracy.
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tSar-Ivor
tSar-Ivor


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Soli deo gloria
posted July 07, 2018 11:42 AM
Edited by tSar-Ivor at 11:59, 07 Jul 2018.

Careful with rationalising though, since it will be done along subjective lines you will chip away at the whole picture. For instance, I rationalised to a friend one of my actions in a dozen different ways, some of them even contradicting one another.

So when you rationalise you might just focus down on a single aspect and not see the others that are also part of you, you may not even want to see them, are they really you afterall?

And you predict outcomes by being burned, no two ways about it. Analyse fire all you want, see people get burned by it a thousand times, you will never truly know unless you use yourself as your own guinea pig. Knowledge is important, but unsupported by action and experience it becomes less than air, a reservoir of little use, and lacking relevance to your daily undertakings.

God exists, but there are many people out there that just want to surrender their decision making, they want to surrender their free will to any set of principles that takes decision making out of their hands. In X situation one must (say a 'gentleman' or a middle-class person must) act thus, and so on and so forth. It is the same with religions, external structures and models of behaviour. Trouble with it, and all things false, is that it is weak, or at least ought to be, but it can be remarkably strong as well, so there must be some great truth to it. Guess some people were destined to be slaves and it is a noble lifestyle if done appropriately. There is no shame in being weak and desiring to be ruled.

My study of humans has ruled out pure materialism, the human being does not act on material desires, these often serve as merely convenient justification for actions (whether known or unknown). But then later acts are inconsistent with the justification.

To perfectly predict someone you have to get to the root, gotta scratch deep, or you have to have a really good sense for this. I kinda have both, since I know I have a good sense for it, but don't trust it, hence I scratch and dig and eventually realise that I was right.

And people will never give you proper honest answers, you either know or you dont, so that requires a lot of trust in yourself and the other.
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Neraus
Neraus


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Pizza Nazi
posted July 07, 2018 12:15 PM

Nietzsche get out!

Joking aside, the problem with rationalizing is that you either make yourself the culprit or the victim if the relationship ended badly, if you've been hurt you'll either blame her or give her credit for rebelling against your faults, and so on.

You can even come to the point of "higher understanding" and say that she actually never saw something in you and just wanted you for giggles, you may even think she never was interested in you or your tastes, that may be true, but who knows, and certainly you can't really have any confirmations by yourself.
And that's the crux of the issue, since you're essentially acting on a model of thought of her you'll always have that sliver of doubt, and that's what in the end brings you back to thinking about it.

The true solution would be a final clash like in an epic, a point in which you unleash all the wounds she caused you and ask for all the answers that you sought, who knows maybe she in turn will have some questions she never asked, and will have some wounds of her own. But let's be realistic, it would more likely end up in a giant catfight, and instead of solving things you add more fuel to the fire, thus making it even more of a resentful memory that'll make you suffer.

And so, you're probably better off distracting yourself and finding someone else, it's not time that heals wounds, it's getting distracted, having a life full of other things that force you to not think about that point of your past, that's how I coped until now, I couldn't just lay there and think about all the suffering I endured, I had to take care of an home, I had to take care of myself in university, and I also had my best friend that pestered me about doing things, also a miniscule fling that ended in nothing because I wasn't interested, all in all, I was too occupied to think about my past crush.
Is that a definitive answer? It depends if it can make you forget, I have the misfortune of meeting a mutual friend of ours (and also ex-classmate) quite often, so meeting her always reminds me of what happened, it doesn't help that another mutual friend wanted all of us to get a coffee sometime.

So yeah, don't mull too much about it until you're at a point in which it's just an empty squabble of your past.
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tSar-Ivor
tSar-Ivor


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Legendary Hero
Soli deo gloria
posted July 07, 2018 12:43 PM
Edited by tSar-Ivor at 12:47, 07 Jul 2018.

It's essentially finally casting the dice, calling them out for a duel. If the relationship was worth a darn then it's worth a final clash. For me never met anyone that's worth it, and that's just the gist of it. For sex or companionship suits me fine, but love requires way too much work and fighting, damn sure it's worth it in the end, but never certain.

Ask her for a duel, at the very least (or worst depending on how you look at it) you'll make her laugh (I actually did this once, in hungarian asking someone out is very close to asking them out for a duel).

Remember one thing, one person is not the same as another, one situation is not the same as any other, people love to live by models, but when it comes down to it, this is no fairy tale, there is no happily ever afters unless you suffer and defeat yourself, until you show your real you. Any person that can make you show yourself (not by tellin ya, hell they may not even need to do anything just be around you for this effect to happen) is well worth fighting for imho.

Got my own battles to fight yet, too many pitfalls and uncertainties, I hate it so much I've grown to love it, guess this is what it means to be human.
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Galaad
Galaad

Hero of Order
Li mort as morz, li vif as vis
posted July 07, 2018 01:39 PM

Is this supposed to be spam?
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Neraus
Neraus


Promising
Legendary Hero
Pizza Nazi
posted July 07, 2018 02:21 PM
Edited by Neraus at 14:21, 07 Jul 2018.

@TsarofallBritainsandHungaries

I do miss the glory of battle, I remember certain fights with my crush, 'twas one of the reason I fell in love, counter-intuitive I know, but it was so satisfying to argue with an opinionated lass, it felt like there was someone who had enough will to mentally joust.

That was probably the reason that it ended like it did too, but hey, that's life.

I sometimes still get the urge of just shouting at her, try to punch at the heartstrings, but at this point it's best I remain silent, at least until fate makes us meet again.

@Galaad

Ramblings about love are the quintessential form of spam, much more refined than gibberish nonsense about nonsense.
Or as fakefrosty would put it: A nonsense Mr.Galaad Why is Mr.Kipshasz so mean to me .
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Galaad
Galaad

Hero of Order
Li mort as morz, li vif as vis
posted July 07, 2018 03:26 PM

Neraus said:
much more refined than gibberish nonsense about nonsense


I am offended.
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