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Doomforge
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posted November 07, 2019 08:50 PM |
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I'd extend that to people close to you being healthy as well.
Losing a friend is a massive kick to the cojones. Life dulls down significantly for a while and TBH it never regains its former colors fully.
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posted November 07, 2019 09:26 PM |
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I'd replace or rather specify on that healthy to mental health. Physical problems are unimportant if they do not influence your mental health.
Doomforge said:
I'd extend that to people close to you being healthy as well.
Losing a friend is a massive kick to the cojones. Life dulls down significantly for a while and TBH it never regains its former colors fully.
This is often even more significant of a factor on your mental health than your own health. All the stress and worry is amplified when it's someone you really care about.
That said, using a phrase like never regains its former colours fully is a bad metaphor. You can never get anything lost back. It doesn't matter what it is. Nostalgia is a hell of a drug.
Often we don't know what we have before it's taken away from us. We often also don't know what we are missing before we have it. So what is worse? If you never gained that you never have to feel the sadness of the loss. Are you happier? Or do you just think you are? Does it matter? If you lose something that doesn't mean you can not be happy again, even happier than before because you are aware of what you have now.
So what is loss? It's knowledge. Maybe wisdom. But more than anything, I think it's confusion. People often look for meaning in things after a loss. It shakes up their life and being. Suddenly they have to fill in that part of their time with something else. And they can't deal with it.
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posted November 07, 2019 10:05 PM |
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I'd replace or rather specify on that healthy to mental health. Physical problems are unimportant if they do not influence your mental health.
And how does that work exactly? Your thoughts are isolated from your body and remain unaffected by your health?
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posted November 07, 2019 10:13 PM |
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Doomforge said:
I'd extend that to people close to you being healthy as well.
Losing a friend is a massive kick to the cojones. Life dulls down significantly for a while and TBH it never regains its former colors fully.
That, my friend, isn't helping anyone. You see, there's a reason why so many cultures have a two-part burial ceremony, one with the dead person being bemoaned, but also telling stories about and stuff, and one enjoying life, partying more or less.
Because - it could have been YOU. We are all sitting in one big boat, and some sink earlier than others, that's part of the deal. As is losing grandparents and parents sometime, if things are developing "normal".
Life is a GIFT. You didn't do anything to get it, and you simply should make the most of it, whatever happens around you.
Losing (close) friends has the effect of making you realize that, yes, your life is finite and will end at some point. That's what you have to overcome.
Nothing is certain or guaranteed.
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Li mort as morz, li vif as vis
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posted November 07, 2019 10:35 PM |
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Doomforge said:
if you're 30 and you never found a talent in yourself, it may become painfully clear that you either don't have those, or you're too old to properly develop them. You can't fool yourself when your day suck that you will become a sportsman, a singer or whatever, like you did as a kid. Because you won't become one. What you've chosen for yourself will likely stick without much wiggle room.
You’re never too old to develop a talent. You actually don’t even need talent if you’re passionate. What is more difficult to get past 30 is free time to do those things, ie if you don’t like your job and only have one to be able to sleep under a roof. I’m not saying this out of optimism, I’ve met people who started to develop something they were passionate about past that age. I think of a singer I know who knew nothing about music in her early 30s, but one day she decided she’d do it. So she entered a music school, worked her arse off and today in her 40s she’s a professional singer. She’s no Callas, but she can make out her living out of it, and that makes her happy, and that is what matters, doesn’t it? I have other examples but you get the idea. One thing I think we have more when we are kids is willpower, I had so much more than now back then. But still, we have greater capabilities than you imply, we're just too emotional. 
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You don't stop being attracted to women in their 20s but you are also more likely to open up to older women as well.
Yes. I will be more sexually attracted to a women in her 20s but I am MUCH more keen to develop a serious relationship with a woman past her 30s. It is true though, that most women around that age are already married with kids, so that creates (other kinds of) complications.
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my dad was just drunk 24/7
I’m sorry for the stereotype but all my slavic friends are like that 
They’re the best kind to party with though 
JoonasTo said:
Unless you plan to be a millionaire and stop working once you hit 30 spend all your money, credit and absolutely all of your time doing what you love or might fall in love with. You might be screwed and poor later with no job, money, or a leg but you have all your life to pay it back, you can't get back the time you wasted studying, working and saving.
Is that a joke or something? Do you really think people want to be homeless at 31? Try it out and tell me how that goes. 
Also studying is not "wasted" if you're interested in your studies, same goes for work.
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posted November 07, 2019 11:10 PM |
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Nancy Pelosi will be 80 soon and I find her sexually attractive although admittedly that is an outlier. The nice thing about older women is that they know what they want and that is an endearing quality. Plus, I simply dont find moderate wrinkles unattractive. Like if a woman is 40 or 20 I dont necessarily have a strong preference but the 40-year-old will probably be more enjoyable conversation.
As far as developing talents, it is true that that sort of stuff is largely out of your control, i.e. many famous singers, actors, musicians, athletes, etc., had the privilege of connections when they were very young and people guided them in the right direction or worked to utilize their passion. The same is often true of CEOs or politicians. We still live in an aristocratic society in that sense.
BUT that doesnt contribute much to fulfillment and happiness anyway, if at all. Money helps for moving from poverty to middle class but beyond that point it doesnt really do much either, at least not if you're born with money. If you're born poor and become rich then it can be a big deal but otherwise you're already conditioned to it and you're still susceptible to depression or boredom.
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verriker
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posted November 07, 2019 11:16 PM |
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is this the good thread for millennial men to say woe is me I am ****, can I come too with my girlfriend, dog and tax forms, 30 plus years and I have still not learned gooder grammer or how to arm wrestle properly wat do mate what even do cheers lol
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posted November 07, 2019 11:19 PM |
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Your signature is hilarious.
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verriker
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posted November 07, 2019 11:20 PM |
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yours sort of is in a dad joke way, very appropriate for the thread lol
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posted November 07, 2019 11:29 PM |
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Here is proof.
50 year age difference but the one on the left is hotter.
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Salamandre
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posted November 07, 2019 11:35 PM |
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Maybe in a previous life you were an archeologist, makes sense then this bizarre passion for mommies.
Ocasio-Cortez is hot as hell.. well, until she talks. But who listen to women, anyway. Put them to dance
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posted November 08, 2019 01:20 AM |
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Edited by fred79 at 01:21, 08 Nov 2019.
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*insert charles manson eyes comparison meme*
@doomforge: wait until you're 40. As life progresses, it'll get worse and worse; depending on different factors. What makes it worthwhile is the kind of people you have around you and what they add to your life. The reason people get married and have kids, for the most part, is to stave off the loneliness. That's why it's important to choose wisely, who you keep close.
The right kind of people around you can make any age not only worthwhile; but the best age of your life. Your own family and kids is kind of a life-hack. And while it requires work to hold a family together, it requires more when you go solo. Some people get lucky and their lives are easier; most are not.
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posted November 08, 2019 09:50 AM |
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Damn, Blizz ain't wrong on this one, then again I still have a crush on HRM Lizzie 2.0.
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monere
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posted November 08, 2019 12:24 PM |
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is... was that fred79 replying?? Did I see well, or is my vision getting worse by the day and my glasses need their own glasses?
to fred79: in PotC tone: "you're s'pposed to be dead!"
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fred79
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posted November 08, 2019 12:53 PM |
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Not yet. Don't derail the thread; it's a good one.
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monere
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posted November 08, 2019 02:36 PM |
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fred79 said:
Not yet. Don't derail the thread; it's a good one.
you! you don't know how to play
The correct answer was "am I not?"
Also, I'm not derailing the thread because I'm only talking to you. The others can mind their own business
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posted November 08, 2019 03:34 PM |
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The bad thing about aging is you tend to lose your sense of wonder, at least to a degree. Things dont shock you as easily. Also, years start to pass by quicker and quicker, it’s not a joy to realize how short life is: When you are young, it always feels like there is this huge portion of life ahead of you and anything can change any day, then you realize not that much changes, this is it, this is life.
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Blizzardboy
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posted November 08, 2019 04:36 PM |
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Yeah that is worrisome. Like, in my early 30s I think to myself "How did I get here already?" and that when I double my age I will be 66. Hopefully still in good shape and active then but the idea puts an alarm up.
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posted November 08, 2019 06:46 PM |
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OhforfSake said:
I haven't cracked the code on how to make time feel longer.
get a job you don't like. It will feel like an eternity
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Blizzardboy
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posted November 08, 2019 09:08 PM |
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1. Healthy diet and lifestyle
2. Mind altering drugs
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