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Jebus
Promising
Supreme Hero
TheJester akaJeebs akaJebfoo
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posted October 31, 2005 02:11 PM |
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It's never easy when a person you want to be with has those kinds of fears, especially if they've had bad experiences in the past. How do you make them feel safe with you when they've not been able to feel safe for a long time? It's tough.
My only piece of advise is to take it slow, and most of all be patient. If you feel the way you say you do then Im sure this is an obvious statement and you shouldn't have any difficulty in giving them the time they need to allow themselves to get close. It's heartwrenching to be so close to someone but not be able to get any closer.
but in then end, if you truly care for them and they for you, through mutual respect and understanding, things will come around. 
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TheAsgard
Adventuring Hero
Wise and helpful being
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posted November 01, 2005 11:26 AM |
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Thankyou for your kind words. Yes I will and am waiting for the love to take its course. Thankyou also for creating this thread, it feels good to be able to share these feelings with another.
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Jebus
Promising
Supreme Hero
TheJester akaJeebs akaJebfoo
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posted November 01, 2005 02:11 PM |
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Thanks is not necessary
I was (and am) hoping this thread could (and will) help members talk more openly about their feelings. So far things are coming in small waves. Many here on HC are great listeners(readers) but we simply have to get over the fear of judgement when we open ourselves up.
I hope members don't keep things bottled up...
especially when there are so many here that are always reading to lend a helping hand.
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Sirus_Wraith
Tavern Dweller
Keeper of Balance
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posted November 09, 2005 05:24 AM |
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wow I luv how it started out like an RP and then turned into a sort of therapy group....Thats really sweet guys...
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I'll find my way
Through night and day,
'Cause I know I just can't stay
Here in heaven.
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AshenShugar
Hired Hero
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posted November 09, 2005 12:19 PM |
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I thought i'd see to check on you guys how you were going ^^ especially you jest 
btw forgive me for my crappy english
Well my life took the turns to the hectic. I'm going to move in 2 weeks to another city, and the girl I was with... Well we just decided it was better to stay friends, cause in the end we would only hurt eachother. It was good as long as it lasted. And now my life is taking big time changes, I guess I can litterly say i'm going trough the 'young man to an adult' frace, since i'm going to move out of my mom's house and start living and working in another city. So my life will be hectic and very scary (for me that is) in the upcoming months.
The hardest thing is though to leave everything behind. My mates, some dear friends, family and well, the city I grew up in.
Although I know this is a good thing for me as a person and a good start to my path of starting all over in life again. I must say i'm scared as hell for all these changes coming so fast and with so many at a time.
So soon I won't be able to post anything anymore (to bad I joined this community far to late ;< when I was already in a bussy scheduel)
I really regret not spending more time in here cause I can tell theire alot of good and intellegent people in this community. And I wish you all the very best. :>
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Jebus
Promising
Supreme Hero
TheJester akaJeebs akaJebfoo
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posted November 09, 2005 04:01 PM |
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Quote:
I thought i'd see to check on you guys how you were going ^^ especially you jest
btw forgive me for my crappy english
great now Ill have to add the nickname "jest" to my avatar!! 
well Im very happy to see that even though you were scared to try out the relationship with this girl in the beginning, you were able to make a good healthy decision (with her of course) in regards to your situation and now, not only did you get to share your feelings (and time) with her, but Im sure you've stenghtened your friendship by mutually coming to the choice of staying friends.
I can feel for you on how scary change can be...
I mean I've been in a cushy easy job for 4 years, always finding ways to put off my leap into my teaching career, and now I've got the oppertunity to do what I want in life, but I just have to get over the fear of putting myself out there.
Good luck with the new life, job and city! Don't look at it like starting over... look at it as a new step or challenge in your life. Sounds like things are working out for you, there's no reason that would change.
(no appology required... it's the effort that counts.)
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