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Azagal
Azagal


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Smooth Snake
posted May 19, 2011 08:48 PM

Well of course it's not back to normal Evinin I mean the whole is what 2 days old at best? Give it some time girl and if she doesn't bring it up I suggest you do or else it might still be a little akward about you. And given time I'm sure both of you'll be able to talk about it.
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Doomforge
Doomforge


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posted May 19, 2011 09:01 PM

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You're condemning her on the basis of things that aren't there. She's not talking to Evinin after being confronted because she herself doesn't know what to think! Panicing and not answering question when you have no answers yourself is perfectly normal and isn't equal to her breaking of their friendship by any stretch.


I'm not condemning anybody. Merely pointing out what would I do in Evenin's situation since her masterpost asked about our insight on the matter.

Of course I don't know a damn thing about it and can only resort to general response. Else I would have to know the exact situation, and that would require being Evenin

Acting hostile against people when you have no answers is not normal to me - it's a sign that the person is (IMHO!) somewhat spoiled and feeling secure enough to do this little charade. Not talking bout Evenin's friend right now, more like of people in general. If someone tries to lash out on me and treat me unfairly, he/she will not see my support, but me walking out the door, and I think that's the only solution. Else people get even more spoiled and are extremely quick to show you their anger or bitterness in a very hostile manner.

You can't be too supportive. Sometimes people need a solid (metaphorical) slap in the face to stop being a-holes to others. Let them and they will spin out of control.

Unless you like people lashing out on you (I don't think so ) or you have never met a person that does so (lucky you then!)

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I mean your whole last paragraph hasn't got anything to do with the subject at hand anymore.


Neither did yours Azzie since the matter is resolved. I did not see Evenin's latest reply when I was writing that.
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Smithey
Smithey


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Yes im red, choke on it !!!
posted May 19, 2011 09:38 PM
Edited by Smithey at 21:39, 19 May 2011.

Just have sex with the poor girl, if it's cool you'll know you're swinging both ways and if not, it's a cool story you'll both laugh about in 5 years... Experience is what life is all about... Just saying

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Fauch
Fauch


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posted May 20, 2011 01:56 AM

sometimes we got to wonder why we make such a big deal of some things, since we will all end the same way anyway

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Smithey
Smithey


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Yes im red, choke on it !!!
posted May 20, 2011 01:59 AM

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sometimes we got to wonder why we make such a big deal of some things, since we will all end the same way anyway


I sure hope you were going for we will all end up having sex with  girls and not for something as morbid as death, in which case.. If you need to talk I'm here for you buddy

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baklava
baklava


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Mostly harmless
posted May 20, 2011 02:01 AM

Took the words right outta my mouth, Smithey.
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mvassilev
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posted May 20, 2011 02:53 AM

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sometimes we got to wonder why we make such a big deal of some things, since we will all end the same way anyway
Because things have value while we're alive.
lol nihilism
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Aculias
Aculias


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Pretty Boy Angel Sacraficer
posted May 20, 2011 03:53 AM

It is hard when you dont have as many friends as some.
If you feel uncomfortable, then you need to address her.
Being a friend, you need to speak how ya feel, if you feel uneasy.

Her being a friend should respect that.

Unfortunately, you can not change the way people think, if they like someone.
As long as she does not touch ya, then that is all you can do.
My motto & for many years.

As long as you dont have a problem that I am straight, then i dont have a problem if you are gay.
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Fauch
Fauch


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posted May 20, 2011 02:03 PM

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sometimes we got to wonder why we make such a big deal of some things, since we will all end the same way anyway
Because things have value while we're alive.
lol nihilism


yes, but we aren't sure it is the case when we are dead.

I was emphasizing this comment :
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Experience is what life is all about... Just saying


why do we have to set so many rules and constraints so that life becomes just following mechanically what a few people decided, by fear to not be normal?

many, if not most people live such a meaningless and stupid life (I'm talking about rich countries in particular) but they seem to think it is normal since often, they encourage their children to live the same way as them.

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shyranis
shyranis


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posted May 20, 2011 03:05 PM

I'm glad to hear everything is slowly working itself back together...

Sorry I wasn't able to respond to this thread in time to be of much use.

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Insanity
Insanity


Known Hero
Brain cells killa
posted May 20, 2011 06:36 PM

Eeeeeeek, me maybe 2 concerned about my non hatching eggzie but i read i analyze and u have bad social skillz

future problems expected pufffff
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Azagal
Azagal


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Smooth Snake
posted May 20, 2011 07:43 PM

I've read your posts and after intensive analysis and consulting ancient writings in the dungeons of Minas Tirith I have come to the conclusion that your grammatical prowess is severely crippled.
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Insanity
Insanity


Known Hero
Brain cells killa
posted May 20, 2011 08:29 PM

eeeeeek a tiger protecting his cry baby by attacking me ? the wicked mama dragon ? eggzie cover you ears plz

orange pussy cat should consider dancing less, that way it will stay more focused and avoid engagin in battles with fierce forces of nature. no great genius comes without some touch of madness so if u choose to dance with me u will find out that this mama dragon is 2 much for u to swallow, i came to have fun and play but they call me insanity for a reason, "me" switches colors faster than a chameleon and you dont wanna have it with me, so, little pussy cat, i suggest u regain your composure fast and chill or mama dragon will make u squeal
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gnomes2169
gnomes2169


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Duke of the Glade
posted May 20, 2011 08:46 PM
Edited by gnomes2169 at 20:47, 20 May 2011.

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Eeeeeek a tiger protecting his cry baby by attacking me ? The wicked mama dragon ? eggzie cover you ears plz

Orange pussy cat should consider dancing less, that way it will stay more focused and avoid engaging in battles with the fierce forces of nature. No great genius comes without some touch of madness, so if you choose to dance with me you will find out that this mama dragon is too much for you to swallow. I came to have fun and play but, they call me insanity for a reason. "Me" switches colors faster than a chameleon, and you dont wanna have it with "me." So, little pussy cat, I suggest you regain your composure fast and chill or mama dragon will make you squeal

(Taunt translated)

Grammar nazi away!!!!
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Seraphim
Seraphim


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Knowledge Reaper
posted May 20, 2011 09:55 PM
Edited by Seraphim at 21:57, 20 May 2011.

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Hi, guys. I know that I haven't been around much lately but I have a lot to do in RL and that's why I'm not here much. I'm looking forward to the better days in which I'll have time for HC again.

The thing is that I have a problem and I have no idea who to talk to. I don't have many friends but I have one very good female friend that I'm very close to. The thing is... I think she's in love with me. Or at least she likes me too much, not just as a friend. Which freaks me out that is. She's my friend and I don't want to loose her but if things really are like this, what the Hell should I do? Any advises?

I'm talking serious, please no mocking...
Thank you.



"Hand her over to me,I will make her hate you and be in love with me..."


If she is your best friend,why the heck do you feel awkward then?
If she is your best friend,confront her,tell her what you think.How can you be best friends if you cant tell her what you think.
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evinin
evinin


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Servant of Asha
posted May 23, 2011 08:49 AM

So... After a lot of talking and so on - we are still friends and she says she doesn't like me like that (the thing about the kiss wasn't mentioned). She has a lot of problems with her mother but she doesn't blame me. Things aren't the same, that's for sure, but at least they are ok (I think). Thanks again to everyone!
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Adrius
Adrius


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Stand and fight!
posted May 23, 2011 12:45 PM

Good to hear, that could've gone much worse
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Elvin
Elvin


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Endless Revival
posted May 23, 2011 01:00 PM

Adversity can strain relationships or forge them to be stronger.
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Mytical
Mytical


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Chaos seeking Harmony
posted May 23, 2011 01:26 PM

Ok I realize I am a litle late in this, and my advice is probably a moot point right now.  For some people a sexual identity is a set thing, for others they go through a period of being unsure.

Who attracted me has pretty much always been set in stone, I've never seen a guy and said "Wow, wonder what it would be like with him." or anything even close.  However, I've mentored a few who were not quite so .. sure about things.  A few of them even tried to convince me how much in love with me they were.  They were really hurt when I explained that the feeling was not mutual, and often it took time for them to see that what they felt was not love, but they felt they wanted to 'thank' me for my mentoring them.

Some went on to only like men, some went on to only like women, and some were fond of both sexes.  I never pushed them an certain way, just made sure they knew that they had somebody to talk to when they needed.

I've had crushes, and I've been hurt by them telling me they are not interested..so all I can say is..pain does not last.  You have to be true to yourself, be honest..even if it is painful, and accept that some will be unable to let it go.  Others will be able to move past it, and find somebody that makes them happy.

Some want somebody, ANYBODY, to be with..others confuse the feelings they have, and yes some are legitimate feelings.  In a round about way, what I am saying is.  It is not your responsibility, you did nothing wrong.  Neither have they, it was just not meant to be.  Just be honest, because lies will end up hurting more in the long run then the truth will.
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moonlith
moonlith


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Supreme Hero
If all else fails, use Fiyah!
posted May 25, 2011 01:15 AM
Edited by moonlith at 01:45, 25 May 2011.

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So... After a lot of talking and so on - we are still friends and she says she doesn't like me like that (the thing about the kiss wasn't mentioned). She has a lot of problems with her mother but she doesn't blame me. Things aren't the same, that's for sure, but at least they are ok (I think). Thanks again to everyone!

Women can be so weird

I'm pretty much 100% with everything Doomforge said. If there's a problem, talk about it. You know, that's the man's way of handling problems: Logical. Problem? Let's talk it out!

Women on the other hand get insulted about everything. When you compliment them on their looks, they will go "What, you didn't like how I looked before?" and boom, you're toast.

And of course, if they want you to talk to them and reconsile, they will do the most logical thing: ignore you and walk away, and then get insulted and mad at you for not coming after them.

It's really frustrating how those very things that make women so obnoxious and annoying are the exact same things that make them so charming and adorable at the same time. Can't help but love them for it.


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Because things have value while we're alive.
lol nihilism

Lol superficialism

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