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TheRealDeal
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posted August 01, 2004 06:05 PM |
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Being Overweight.
I haven't seen a discussion just on this topic. And being overweight myself, i would like to start it.
I've been overweight a big chunk of my life. Most people would say "Stop complaining ya lard ass!" But heres my problem, my legs only have 33 % of what normal people have. Which makes it impossible to get good leg mustles. Basicly, i have a very hard time working out(i go to the gym, so i'm not just sitting at home whining) Then you say "eat light" But heck, i can't. Well, i can, but it doesn't work without excerice. Then there is surgery, but i won't go that way. So here's the beef: I can either be happy with my size, or become a whining bore.
I took that descission 2 years ago, when i chose that i would be happy with my size, and live with it. I'm usually very happy(But i'm still a teen, so the mood may swing) And in real life, i'm known to be funny. But there is a problem, chicks like the athletes. The cute kids. Not the fat guy who once limped. I have a lot of Girl-friends, but few girlfriends. I know my standards are to high, but that comes with my confidence. Because there is another problem, a fat kid with walking problems? Easy Target! But i build a wall of laughter around me, teasing back, not that common for the fat kid.
So, i started teasing back, which made me popular extremely fast. People always cared about me because of my humor, even the teachers!
But its not just glory here. I've always been on the internet alot, and i met this girl over the internet, and i liked here right away, and we agreed to meet(she lived at a short distance from my grandpa and grandma) And we came steady before i even met here!(i was young) And wow, i loved this girl. I came to here house, and wow.. she was beautiful, seriously hot. We spended the day together, and i was in seventh heaven, and she smiled and laughted all the time. I really loved it.. When a lot of nice hours passed, my parents came to pick me up. And i was smiling, suddenly i got an sms from here were she said that she was breaking up with me. How sad can ya be?
My confidence, my selfasteem, my humor, was gone. I was a fat sad kid. Wow, easy target!
Half a year later, i met another girl over the internet(which lived very close to where i live!) (btw, i wasn't an entire geek, i wasn't home alot because i visited friends, anyways..) This girl was really something special, she was also extremely hot(she was even a model) And we hitted it out right away, and 3 hours with here, gave me EVERYTHING back, with more. So, i had made a great friend, and i was better then ever.
Next day at school, some older dudes came to tease me. And i slammed the insults back in their face so hard that their head almost fell off, and a teacher said "I think christian is back again..." Just in danish.
From that day, i've been happy. With a few minor things going the other way ofcourse.
At the moment, i don't care much about me being fat. I don't mind it much, as long as i'm happy.
Here's my question. What do you think when you see a fat person? Are YOU fat? Do you think im pathetic? Do you think it was great that i got my confidence back? Are you also in "my shoes" ?
I would like to start an open debate about this, and don't hold anything back.
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Lord_Woock
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posted August 01, 2004 06:23 PM |
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It must not be very convenient, sharing shoes with someone living several hundred kms north from where I live, and we prolly don't even have the same shoe size, so I guess I'm not in your shoes 
I'm a bit of an opposite of yours (tall, skinny, has problems standing in one place - I prefer walking , and I'm one of the most hated people in school, too  ), so I guess I wouldn't have much to say on the topic.
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Daddy
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posted August 01, 2004 06:24 PM |
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Well, with me it's kinda otherway round^^
Im underweight o.O and, well, I thin one can call 1,93meters tall^^
Hum, I am not able to tell you girlfriend-storys since I havent one  but overall I'm fine with me as I am.
Of course, I watch that I dont lose more weight, but doing weight-watch all the time can get very annoying 
that teasing thing I know very well, too - not because of my weight but`other things that I yet still dont know ö.Ö - I did it similar to you - you know, teasing back, and it mostly works 
But to really get to the topic^^:
"What do you think when you see fat people?"
-> Hard to say, depends on how fat they are - no, seriously:
I think that I just see that they are fat and maybe say to myself, "oh, this perosn is fat" but nothing more. I know many persons that are fat (<- not a nice word, I think I'm not gonna use it here anymore ) and these people are very nice, friendly andy funny persons One shouldn't rate people by their weight or size or sth. To be ably to tell if a person is nice or not you must gwt to know him/her. Thats my opinion to it.
You're overweight, I'm underweight - so, here we go. Still can be friends, huh?
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TheRealDeal
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posted August 01, 2004 06:31 PM |
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I don't dislike skinny people at all. But i hate skinny people which think that they are gods.
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Daddy
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posted August 01, 2004 06:42 PM |
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Well, I would say all people who think they are god are to be disliked^^
(I hope it does not look like I would think I am god - thats not true 8[ )
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posted August 01, 2004 07:19 PM |
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But you do have the body of a god!
Budda, never forget.
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posted August 01, 2004 07:35 PM |
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my only problem with overweight people are when you
A) get the seat next to them on for example a train.
B) when overweight females havent realised some clothes doesnt fit... like when they wear really tight pants and you can see their celluits jump up and down..*ewwww* thats like a throw up pill
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Romana
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posted August 01, 2004 07:57 PM |
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Well I'm starting to get a belly and i get the weirdest reactions from people that want to have a look at it and touch it and what not.. I'm like: *eww..get away from me ya freaks!
I swear .. my family and friends turned weird now that I'm pregnant.
I have nothing against overweight people by the way.
I've been working-out with a group of overweight people for about a year now and I really have respect for them that they keep on coming and don't complain, because losing weight the healthy way takes a lot of time and effort. But they never give up and that's fantastic.
What I do not like is slightly overweight people who complain all the time about a little rim of fat they have on their butt (or where-ever) while they're stuffing away a huge hamburger special.
In short..if you're not happy with the way you look, don't complain too much and do something constructive and that doesn't only apply to overweight people.
Anyway that's my 2 cents
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posted August 01, 2004 09:00 PM |
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TheRealDeal,
You made a good post. You were honest. This is good because many of the people here, including myself, don't want to admit that we sit in front of a computer for too long.
I am 206 lbs right now which is still a heavy person. But this number is down from 246 lbs. I am like Lord_Woock and yourself. It is difficult for me to stay focused on something for very long. I have a short attention span and I am overweight. I am running again which helps me to stop from gaining weight. I like to make friends with "fat people" because I know it is hard sometimes. My brother would always tell me that I like "fat chicks".
I want to say that people who call other people fat don't know the real person inside their hearts. Sometimes I think people who are afraid to say they are fat, call other people fat. I know this is true and I try to remind other people not to call them fat because they don't know what they are going through.
For some people, being fat is genetic and they can't change who they are. For others, it is a problem with being sad, beaten by a boyfriend, ostracized at school, or because they have no self control for the things they like to eat.
The point is we all have problems and that is the way life is. The important thing to remember is to help people if they ask for it and respect the struggles they go through. Don't call people fat because you wouldn't like it if they called you something that hurt your feelings.
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posted August 01, 2004 09:07 PM |
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Just cut out sugar. That will fix it.
But if you don't make it, just enjoy life until the fat clogs up the arteries
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posted August 01, 2004 09:32 PM |
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@Consis - um... exactly what things do you think we have in common?
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posted August 01, 2004 09:42 PM |
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Romana I want to rub your belly :-P
on a more serious note: the only way to lose weight is to have more energy going out than coming in. So forget all the "low carb", "Atkins" etc. diet crap... it just won't work.
Do work out, best would be cardio sports (running, swimming, cycling, ski skating for example) combined with a little bit muscle training. As for running for example, don't do too much in the beginning. 3 times per week maximum in the first weeks. Measure your heart frequency rate. If it gets too high (130 bpm should do for the beginning), run slower. If you can't run any slower, do some walking or nordic walking to get your body used to it.
Drink much water, start eating vegetables and fruits more often. Reduce your consume of fat, sugar and alcohol to some extent, but don't leave it away completely (wouldn't work anyways).
however, just my 2 cents
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posted August 01, 2004 10:19 PM |
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The Man Speaks The Truth!
I agree with Haile's advice 100%. He hit it right on the head when he said not to do too much in the beginning. If you push yourself too hard in the early stages, you run the risk of injury or also getting burned-out too quickly.
Once you are feeling comfortable with your exercise routine, my advice would be to start hitting the cardiovascular exercise up to 5 times a week. Mix it up for variety. Run, bike, swim, climb steps, have sex, whatever. If you can get your metabolism to perform continually at a higher rate, then not only will you feel more awake and alert, but you will also be burning many more calories throughout the day (and even while you sleep).
Water rules! If you have the discipline to elimate soda or sugar drinks out of your diet and replace them with water, then this will facilitate your weight loss and help keep you better hydrated during your physical activity. If you are exercising and not sweating, then you are either not working out hard enough or you are not properly hydrated. I was in the best shape of my life when I was working out, dieting properly, and drinking almost a gallon of water per day. The only drawback was that I was peeing about once per hour, but let me tell you, I felt great and my skin looked wonderful!
It's all about 'self-discipline', RealDeal. However, it always helps if you have a buddy or two who will help motivate and keep you honest in your exercising and dieting. Try to recruit a friend or two to do this with you, that way when you don't feel like training, you have that peer pressure to get your butt moving.
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posted August 02, 2004 12:50 AM |
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Well..
Because of my humor i've always had 2 bunches of friends. The Nerds(much like myself) And the "cool" kids. Alot of nerds always hated that about me, because i always had something to do(Don't get me wrong, i juse ALOT of time on my computer)
Thankyou Consis, i hope more people admit that they have a problem, it's a good step in the right direction.
My problem is that i can't do jack snow about my weight, because excersize really means something, yes i can cut everything out of my life that i like to eat, and lose weight so slow that im almost gaining it.
At one point my little sister ALWAYS got harrased by the older guys, and i couldn't do anything because i was a sad chunk of worthless fat. But as i got my selfrespect back, i startet working out, you know, with my arms. So i got very large arm muscles, one day a guy harrased here, and i said "stop" and he was like "watcha gonna do fatty, throw your EMPTY lunchbox at me?" and i said "no, gonna throw YOU after the wall" And then he harrased here again, and i hit him once straight into the wall, and he startet crying(he was 2 years older than me) Since that day, people have respected me and my sister, and i haven't used violence in school since.
I do drink a lot of water, but that's because it also makes you play better computer.
I'm fat, and i will probably always be it(other then my mother, my whole family is VERY fat) And the worst part is, i don't mind being fat anymore. Then you might say "YEAH, RIIIIGHT" But its true, because if people like me, im 100 % sure it isn't because that im hot. People like me for me, and that's a thing that will make you happy.
Then you might say "how's about the chicks?" Well, as women get older, they get wiser, and looks start meaning less, which is very nice.
And Congratulations with your baby! Do you know if it's a boy or a girl? 
I hope more people get into this discussion, because i love to hear peoples thoughts about this subject, it really gives me an idea of the person(and you can often see if people are lieing)
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posted August 02, 2004 01:22 AM |
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Theres alot you can do to help you lose wieght.
Excercise in a regular basis.
Try to eat & drink right & take your vitamins.
check & see your docter often & check for high blood pressure & work on it.
I am tired of women that say they are fat but when I look at them, thier only like 140 pounds or less lol.
Then they dont want to eat & thats not good for your body at all & you can harm yourself by not eating.
You can work on your weight if your dedicated to do so but you have to be willing & dont make excuses to us, you know your own answer to this problem & what you should do.
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posted August 02, 2004 01:42 AM |
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theres something else with this "no eating" thing:
If you eat (allmost) nothing a time and then, just one or a few days, eat a bit more all that goes on your body, cuz the body wants to get reserves of fat, cuz of the low supply.
So all this "eat-nothing"-diets are crap
The thing said above are the true thing, man
In this context a sentence comes to my mind: "Once on your lips, forever opn your hips" ^^
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posted August 02, 2004 01:48 AM |
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Its hard to work out when your legs aint fuctioning right. I know these are some long posts but i really have a lot on my mind about this..
About thin good looking women complaining about them being fat, yes, i didn't want to mention this, but i feel i have to. This is the thing that upsets be about being fat, because if they are fat, what the snow am i? I'm like a whale then! I'm a 100 kg person myself.
I know this seriously hot chick, but she ALWAYS say "Do i look fat? Does this make my butt look big? Have i got flabby arms? Am i ugly because i'm fat?" And really, she's a piece of heaven. One day is told that i was tired of hearing about this, and if she wanted to stay friends, get something else on your mind, because if she kept it on, my good humor and all of that would start crumbling, and she never talked about it again, she is like a changed human. I really admire here now for stopping it when she was asked, people often ask me if i had something to do with it. I'm almost proud.
Other big problem, big women who say "oooh why do people hate me! noone loves me!" This doesn't make me sad, but this annoys me. Because you can't really say anything without looking like a jerk. But one day i still said something to a group of fat chicks that REALLY milked the sadness cow(i barely knew them) And one of them actually said "Why aren't you sad? Your big 2!" And when i said "I don't have a reason to be sad. I'm fat, and people dont seem to mind that much, i just keep on being me, a happy dude, and i shower and use deo, instead of sweating like a pig and smelling like 2! Not get off your chairs and drop the candy bars, go hiking, take a swim. Just stop whining!" One of them got so pissed she left. 2 of the girls are thin the day to day. I often wish for healthy legs so that i might be able to get to do sports, mostly because i hate watching them, but i love to play them.
But, fat men, which really don't have that big a problem, is like gold. They are either poetic or seriously funny, might even be both! Because they don't have all that to do(which is sad) But i still love it. But noone ever learns this because they keep avoiding large people.
I was at a safri Duo concert to night, and 2 nice looking girls hit on me. Boy, was my friends jealous, these were the cool kids. Because being fat doesn't always = Ugly, you just have to wear the right clothes, for most overweight people(male here) a nice suit really does wonders! And for girls, well.. just not to tight please.
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posted August 02, 2004 01:52 AM |
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I remember when I was a teenager, I was not overweight, but not really skinny either. I just had a constant weight that never moved.
And I used to eat like a mo fo. It was a hobby. I couldn't walk past the fridge without sticking my head in and taking something out.
Then I turned 21, and one day all of a sudden I woke up to find that overnight, I had grown a beer belly.
So I says to myself 'That thing's gotta go girlfriend'
But it's harder than it looks.
I used to take dance lessons and go canoeing alot, but my dance tutor went off to some theatre school in London, and I'm not in my high school's canoeing society any more so I have to motivate myself to excercise and it's not easy.
I also have problems with running. When I was born, the bones in my feet were out of shape because my mom was 4 1/2 weeks overdue (this was back in 1980 when they didn't induce labour).
So I had to have a few corrective surgeries and lots of physiotherapy growing up, but my feet still aren't perfect, so if I run for any period of time I end up bruising the bones of my feet and lying in bed for two days in pain.
So what I do is swim. And it's not even serious swimming. Once or twice a week me and my buddies will go mess about at the local pool, throw eachother in the water, have mini-races and get shouted at by the lifeguard alot. But it helps.
I also lift weights and go to a kickboxing aerobics class, cos it's really fun and there are some really good looking people to stare at.
But if I have a lazy week I have to start all over again it seems, my jeans get tight and the beer belly returns, so my problem is just laziness. I could have the body I want if I really cared, but hey, I still score at the weekends so who cares
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posted August 02, 2004 02:30 AM |
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I was hoping that you wouldn't post in this thread.
I was being very serious about this thread, so please Delete that post.
Well mr Ultimate Dork, not everyone has had 9 surgerys making the fact that they can walk a miracle.
So please delete your post so that the real discussion can get on its way.
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posted August 02, 2004 02:42 AM |
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