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violent_flower
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posted May 19, 2008 10:29 PM |
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Wanna be Happy or Right
Here was an eye opener for myself. I have discovered that by taking this short survey I would rather be right than happy. Have some work to do....
_X____ Braced yourself and constricted your energies to avoid invasion from another person's words or actions
__X___ Thought "You can't tell me what to do and I don't have to listen" when a parent or teacher corrected you
__X___ Felt overly proud at being rational and logical at the expense of being intuitive and experiencing feelings
___X__ Needed be seen as tough, powerful and strong
_____ Decided that your ideas were better than others so shut their opinions off
__X___ Became angry when you expected others to see things your way and agree with you and they didn't
_____ Felt embarrassed about admitting and saying"I don't know." and "I was wrong."to yourself and others
_____ Felt threatened when you feared you were wrong
_____ Judged others harshly when they disagreed with you
_____ Became overwhelmed when information presented was too much to process
_____ Felt threatened when new ideas came from someone else
_____ Feared hearing about new information that threatened your beliefs
__X___ Feared letting go of control of a task to someone else
__X___ Devalued the sensitivity and feelings of others
__X___ Felt uncomfortable with your expressing sensitive feelings
_____ Felt discomfort about having bad feelings
__X___ Felt entitled in doing what you had to do to get others to go along with you
__XXX___ Decided that someone who disagreed with you should "just get over it"
_____ Used smiling and charm insincerely to get win another person to your point of view
_X____ Started blaming and putting the other person down to settle the argument
_____ Feared the anxiety and feeling fragmented when there was disagreement
_X___ Felt satisfied and pleased because you manipulated someone to get your way
_XX____ Overrode the boundaries that someone else was trying to set
_X____ Refused to see the problem from the other person's perspective
_XXXXXX____ Responded with sarcasm instead of trying to solve the problem
_XXXXXX____ Decided that the issue didn't affect you and assumed it did not affect others
_____ Argued your point of view in thoughts or words and refused to hear the alternate argument
_XXXX____ Badgered and intimidated someone to shut him down
_XX____ Became agitated and stubbornly attached when your ideas were attacked
_____ Became irritated at an assumption of the other person and stopped listening
_XXXX____ Minimized the importance of a personal problem you were being confronted with
_____ Refuse to deal with a problem because you thought it was temporary
_XXXX____ Refused to ask for help on a hard problem and decided you needed to do it all yourself
_____ Refused to ask for help on a task because you were embarrassed
_____ Lied and falsified data to convince people you were right
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Learn how to duck and weave because I will throw truth at you all day!
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kookastar
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posted May 20, 2008 12:49 AM |
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Here was an eye opener for myself I have discovered that by taking this short survey I would rather be right than happy
sorry but LOL 
do you think you want to change that, you seem to be kool with it...
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violent_flower
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posted May 20, 2008 03:30 AM |
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Cool with it as far as my personality is concerned but some of the other things need some work. Glad to HEAR THOUGH THAT YOU HAVE SURPASSED ANY ISSUES IN YOUR LIFE.....
Go get em Koochie star...
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Learn how to duck and weave because I will throw truth at you all day!
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Aculias
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posted May 20, 2008 05:16 AM |
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I would of been very disapointed if it was the other way around 
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kookastar
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posted May 20, 2008 07:22 AM |
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Man my life is one big issue lol, which why I am more concerned with happiness Nah tis not so bad, I was just surprised with your apiphany - it's kool though, I've got enough butterflies here for both of us!  
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Aculias
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posted May 20, 2008 07:50 AM |
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Defantely the best of the song Tears from a clown
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Dreaming of a Better World
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zamrai
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Moonlight Melody
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posted May 20, 2008 08:56 AM |
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The question, if put this way, doesn't make sense.
You cannot distinguish 'happy' from 'right'.
Do right and be happy with that - it works only this way.
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violent_flower
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posted May 20, 2008 06:19 PM |
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It is not about doing right it is about trying to be right all the time. I find latley that surrending to those that believe them selves to be right is just easier, thus making me more happy.
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Learn how to duck and weave because I will throw truth at you all day!
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bixie
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my common sense is tingling!
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posted May 20, 2008 07:08 PM |
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"Science has acheived wonderful things, of course, but i'd much rather be happy than right any day!"
"and are you?"
"No... thats were it all falls down, of course."
"Pity, it sounded like quite a good life otherwise."
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Love, Laugh, Learn, Live.
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zamrai
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Moonlight Melody
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posted May 20, 2008 07:31 PM |
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It is not about doing right it is about trying to be right all the time.
For me it's the same. Is it?
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kookastar
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posted May 20, 2008 11:12 PM |
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I think if you truly know you are right - (or can acknowledge that you may not be) then it is easy to let someone pigheaded argue their point without feeling like you need to change their mind. People need time to learn about compromise and being able to have an open mind is something that comes with experience/growing. You can state your mind once, give them some less overt guiding to the "truth" but then let it go. We can't take on the responsibility to change everyone's mind all the time, or yeah we go insane.
I guess my point is - I actually LOVE and do desire to be right - everyone does -what I don't need is other people to tell me I'm right - I know that already lol I do like to be proven wrong and learn too though {sometimes}.
Happiness can be a hard thing to grab hold of, especially when we don't really know what we are searching for or where we are headed, the challenge for me is to embrace each day without holding onto the past and the future - to see that life is an adventure - I think that is what I need to accept to be happy...
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Aculias
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posted May 21, 2008 04:18 AM |
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All women desire to be right
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roy-algriffin
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Chocolate ice cream zealot
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posted May 21, 2008 06:22 AM |
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This quiz is rigged.
everyone wants to be right, Some of the questions are undeniably ones that 90% of the people would answer the one that veers to being right because the alternative is making yourself look intolerant/stupid.
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"Am i a demon? No im a priest of the light! THE BLOODY RED LIGHT"
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zamrai
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Moonlight Melody
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posted May 21, 2008 11:18 AM |
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Happiness can be a hard thing to grab hold of, especially when we don't really know what we are searching for
Agree. Question about happiness is a difficult question, as you said one cannot just grab it and keep it, because happiness is not a thing.
People usually understand happiness as pleasure, they try to find pleasant situations and try to avoid the unpleasant ones. Life then is like a rollercoaster in Disneyland -ups and down are inevitable and one will never be happy this way.
One of the wisest greek philosophers -Socrates used to say that happiness is the wisdom itself. When we realize how unstable things are, when we stop chasing pleasures like shadows knowing they give no happiness and we start acting for beneift of others instead - then we can discover the truly happiness. Point is that happiness is already here but chasing for impermanent things, worring about ourselves we cannot see it - there is too many desires and fears - they are like clouds over the sun.
(This philosophy of happiness is crucial for far-east philosophy also)
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