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DagothGares
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posted May 12, 2009 05:20 PM |
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Hey, DC!
What's up? I kust read about what happened. It sucks, I know. Do you mind telling us about her? Or can you tell me why you were so angry?
We act entirely different, you and I. I want to try and understand 
(I can't get mad, by the way)
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DarkCrystal
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posted May 12, 2009 05:29 PM |
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What to tell? We were meeting for about one and half a year. Quite a long time. We both loved each other and we were happy with each other. I loved her and never refused any of her request. And she loved me too. It seemed that nothing can spoil our relations.
And today she phoned me and asked to meet her outside. I had a bad feeling, but I couldn't imagine what will happen. And then she meets me and tell that I suck and she want to leave me for another guy! I was so shoked and hurted. I think I would feel the same if she stabbed kinfe in my chest. I was speechless and after shock came out I became tough and told her to go away. Perhaps she didn't know what pain did she made for me with that, I'm even sure she didn't. But it was very painful.
But it's hard for you, who haven't felt same things to understand me.
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Sometimes I'm about to yell: "It is flat you idiots!" But I don't wanna die in fire. 
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wog_edn
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The Nothingness
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posted May 12, 2009 05:49 PM |
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Something like that happened to me once, I reacted exactly the same way .. I know how you feel man, you acted just like most would have. But believe me, someone else is gonna come along
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DagothGares
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No gods or kings
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posted May 12, 2009 05:52 PM |
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I had a bad feeling, but I couldn't imagine what will happen. And then she meets me and tell that I suck and she want to leave me for another guy! I was so shoked and hurted. I think I would feel the same if she stabbed kinfe in my chest. I was speechless and after shock came out I became tough and told her to go away. Perhaps she didn't know what pain did she made for me with that, I'm even sure she didn't. But it was very painful.
Here's my take on the deal:
I think she found someone who she felt... I don't know, she...
I am not going to defend her, but I doubt she chose to be with someone else, because you suck. i don't know, maybe she felt better with that person or some insane stuff like that. She still liked you or she wouldn't have asked to be your friend, as well...
Have you tried looking through her eyes?
Or...
Listen to wog, I can't help you.
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DarkCrystal
Promising
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Staright out of line
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posted May 12, 2009 06:02 PM |
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Dagoth, I'm not a toy with which she can play as she wish. She tried to do that and got what she should have got. And if she is now repenting on what she has done, I must say that I was hurted much more. If she really loves me, why does she need to do such things? But I don't mind to give her another chance.
Wog, nice to see that there are some people, who has gone through that.
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Sometimes I'm about to yell: "It is flat you idiots!" But I don't wanna die in fire.
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razor5
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Freezing...
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posted May 12, 2009 06:03 PM |
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Does you feel this as a "spike on your heart"?
It's just her fault.I will try to avoid GFs like these when I will grow,anyway,she wants other guy,why probably because your mutation (that you told us).The main problem is that most of the people (not only girls) won't be your friend,I mean a real one.She was one of this people.I personally had a few real and helpful friends,because they showed this to me that.
Does she impressed you with something? I'm sure you done something for her,but she don't take care of it.I can simply help you with these sentences:
i. Find another one,but be careful of what type of girlfriend is her,a true one or just a fake one which will use you for some months and then leave you
ii. Go to her and say: "You were my girlfriend,but you are not now and you will not be ever,even simple 'friends'
iii. Search deeper into her mind and heart,to be sure what you will choose to be a part of your heart
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wog_edn
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The Nothingness
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posted May 12, 2009 06:04 PM |
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Listen to wog, I can't help you.
I can say I've gone through the same, I don't give advices anymore .. that usually ends up baaaad.
But hey, if you wanna deal with it my way: Distance yourself from all emotions until you feel like you don't care at all about her, then get into a major fight with everyone you know, run away for three months, find out what true suffering really is .. then suddenly other stuff doesn't seem so bad anymore  My way of dealing with stuff .. but hey, I don't suggest it 
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blizzardboy
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posted May 12, 2009 06:06 PM |
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What should I do? Maybe there are some experienced people here, who can help me with some advices?
Don't make up stories to people online about losing your girlfriend.
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DagothGares
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No gods or kings
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posted May 12, 2009 06:11 PM |
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Just don't Quote:
Distance yourself from all emotions
I do that... It sucks, I can't get mad anymore, nor do I feel satisfaction with anything nowadays. I can cry, strangely enough
Man, I'm a lonely looney.
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DarkCrystal
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Staright out of line
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posted May 12, 2009 06:11 PM |
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Does you feel this as a "spike on your heart"?
Only at the first time. Now I feel only insulted and enraged.
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It's just her fault.I will try to avoid GFs like these when I will grow,anyway,she wants other guy,why probably because your mutation (that you told us).
Man, we were meeting for about 1,5 year. She knew about my mutation and didn't care about this.
@Wog: I am not very emotional. But this was real love so I felt hurted at the first time. But now I threw out all emotions from me.
@Blizzardboy: I understand that some HC members cannot avoid joking, but then can't you just not post in the thread, hell damn it! 
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Sometimes I'm about to yell: "It is flat you idiots!" But I don't wanna die in fire.
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Carcity
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Blind Sage
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posted May 12, 2009 06:14 PM |
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about same thing happened to me a couple years ago, sure we where both kids but I felt that she was specil, then she just dumped me for no reason, and she was like the best of girls I had ever meet. we didn't talk very much after that, we where together for two years. I meet her a couple weeks ago, she is a ***** now.
what I'm saying is DC, you deserve someone better, someone who doesn't dump you for someone else but someone who really really likes you. if she doesn't want you that's her fault, there are much better girls for you out there.
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DagothGares
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posted May 12, 2009 06:21 PM |
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Dosn't she deserve the chance to look for her own happinness? If you love her, then why turn her away that brutally? I know she hurt you and maybe you actually trusted her, once and now that trust is broken, but still...
I have no valid point! Just let it be, then. People can be perfectly happy while being mad, so meh...
Your choice, I suppose...
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Elvin
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Endless Revival
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posted May 12, 2009 06:34 PM |
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William.. It's not that easy and certainly not for all people. You should know that much.
Sorry to hear that DC, it just happens. But you are young, you can't talk about true love trust me. Almost 100% if not 100% of the couples eventually break up at that age, the fact that she wanted someone else is natural hurtful as that may seem. I think she cared about you though it's hard to tell as an outsider. It's not necessarily that there is a problem with you nor that the other is better, maybe she just realized she 'clicks' better with him. Asking to remain friends is not a bad gesture either, if she knew you'd decline and still asked it must mean something. She holds no ill feelings even if you do. Apparently you are hurt and your cold response is a defense mechanism.
Anyway live your life, sooner or later things will look up. Have fun with your friends, meet new people or girls, whatever helps you lighten up your mood. But don't find a girl just to cover her spot, it won't end well.
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DarkCrystal
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Staright out of line
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posted May 12, 2009 06:38 PM |
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what I'm saying is DC, you deserve someone better, someone who doesn't dump you for someone else but someone who really really likes you
Yes, I will find new GF like that. But I will never let my love turn so big, so I will never be hurted again.
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Dosn't she deserve the chance to look for her own happinness?
That's exactly what she has done.
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If you love her, then why turn her away that brutally? I know she hurt you and maybe you actually trusted her, once and now that trust is broken, but still...
You just don't know how did it hurt me. Probably not the fact that she is leaving me, but the thing that the person who I trusted very much betrayed me.
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Sometimes I'm about to yell: "It is flat you idiots!" But I don't wanna die in fire.
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Shares
Supreme Hero
I am. Thusly I am.
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posted May 12, 2009 06:43 PM |
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Yes, I will find new GF like that. But I will never let my love turn so big, so I will never be hurted again.
Yes! You should! I tried that but now I can't feel that kind of love any more, I hope that someday I will, but for the time I can't. If you refuse to feel love you will loose it. All you can do with love is cherish and enjoy the good parts and always remember your happy moments (even if it hurts), and just try to endure the hard parts and the pain. For me it never really healed, and I still feel sad sometimes, years later, but I don't regret a second of it, (well I regret that we let it fall apart) and more often I think of our good memories and happy times.
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DagothGares
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posted May 12, 2009 06:45 PM |
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You just don't know how did it hurt me.
I probably don't...
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Elvin
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posted May 12, 2009 06:50 PM |
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But I will never let my love turn so big, so I will never be hurted again.
This is one of the biggest mistakes you can make in your life. You will become a cold cold creature that will only hurt others and you may not feel the hurt but you won't feel the happiness either. Avoid at all costs.
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veco
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posted May 12, 2009 07:07 PM |
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Edited by veco at 19:11, 12 May 2009.
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@Elvin: Been there, done that. Then I made peace with her after a year and ended up Dagoth-like
DC, although I agree that being friends most likely wouldn't work, the response you gave her was a little too much. Then again, that's just my taste.
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Doomforge
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posted May 12, 2009 07:07 PM |
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You're young. If I remember correctly, you started college not too long ago, right? That means you met your GF when you were 18 or so. People change. Relationships change. ESPECIALLY teen fascination, which MOST OFTEN turns into nothing as people mature. I mean, teen fascination is a great feeling, but if it dissolved, you should really let it go and look for a REAL relationship... started when you're an adult, not hormone-driven teen. Just my two cents and good luck.
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DarkCrystal
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posted May 12, 2009 07:10 PM |
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@Elvin: maybe you're right. Then I'll just try to choose GF more carefully.
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You're young. If I remember correctly, you started college not too long ago, right? That means you met your GF when you were 18 or so.
Well, excuse me, but I'm only 16 and I'm finishing school next year.
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Sometimes I'm about to yell: "It is flat you idiots!" But I don't wanna die in fire.
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