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Frick
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and eternal n00b.
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posted July 02, 2004 08:19 PM |
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Well, it's not a big problem, 'cause I think reason is more important than emotions and therefore I control my feelings. It'll come, and I have a normal life, even without a girl. 
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isabelyes
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posted October 09, 2007 04:32 PM |
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such a beautiful story...
btw, what's nfpc or something?
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TitaniumAlloy
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Legendary Hero
Professional
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posted October 10, 2007 10:12 AM |
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What is love??
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John says to live above hell.
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Mytical
Responsible
Undefeatable Hero
Chaos seeking Harmony
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posted October 10, 2007 10:47 AM |
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Lust is a chemical reaction that happens in the brain when you encounter somebody who sends out the 'right signals'. Once lust is firmly rooted in your subconscious you become use to the feeling, and it is called love. It is akin to an addiction, you want to be around the person constantly so that you may keep feeding the addiction. Some people become immune to the chemical, however, and have to have more and more (so they cheat). These are what we call pigs or (the female version of it hehe). Castration might be a viable means of ensuring they don't stray 
Now on the pleasant side of this : My experiences differ from a lot of people on here. I suffer from a physical problem with my mind that causes chronic depression. However, the medicine to treat depression causes me to often experience severe anger and be quite coldhearted, so I manage on my own. I have had more then a few partners, and most have been very cheery and some even 'bubbly'. Each time there is a brake up I was happy for them, and them sad for me. Letting go is the ultimate act of love.
Every one of them have come seeking me, never once have I mentioned a relationship first. Though sometimes I get lonely, I am ok with being alone. I've got some advice for the guys out there (although don't bother with me  ). Be yourself.
Lies, deceit, being a jerk might get you the quantity...but being yourself gets you the quality. I know, all the guys are probably saying "Heck with the quality, give me the quantity" hehe. I have yet to figure out why most of my fellow females like the bad boys. I detest them, and even if things were different would not give them the time of day. I don't want a child to raise, or somebody to bail out of jail. Pass thanks.
Anyhow, twins are fun...I mean good luck with everything. Peace.
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Nidhgrin
Honorable
Famous Hero
baking cookies from stardust
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posted October 10, 2007 11:20 AM |
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In my humble opinion the ability to love and feel compassion are, next to logical reasoning, what sets us aside from other animals.
I'm an ENFP myself (here's a post with some info about MBTI for those who are interested: MBTI), and I've been hurt bad a couple of times as well.
Even though I have an undepletable energy reserve, am very social and outgoing, open minded, upbeat and adaptable, and have lots of different interests, I haven't really had a lot of luck in relationships in the past...
Like Bjorn, my feelings go deep and are very intense. In a way, I think male 'feeler-types' can potentially become emotionally stronger than a lot of women. Today I consider that to be one of my greatest strengths, rather than a weakness. It has become a source of confidence, rather than a source of doubt. Like no other, I can read other people's feelings and sometimes even their thoughts. That way, I naturally feel how to bring the best out in people, or professionally how to lead diverse groups of people, and which task or job is best fit for each individual.
Before I embraced my emotional sensitivity as a gift, and because of my outgoing nature, women actually hit on me instead of the other way around. I now know these women were not the kind of types that were right for me. From their perspective I can imagine I didn't turn out to be the guy they thought I was, going off on my looks (tall, long blond hair, goaty, bit of a grungy look).
Things have started to change from as soon as I really started to accept myself for who I am, and allow my feelings to play an important role in my life - opposed to hiding them. I had a relatively short but promising relationship in spring, which was much healthier than many past relationships. Recently I've fallen in love again with a very sweet and sensitive woman I met during the summer. The fact that we're both feelers adds so much warmth and depth to our relationship, it's only now I realize what I've been missing in previous relationships. It's amazing
Here's my message to other sensitive or emotional men: be who you're meant to be and don't hide your feelings, or try to change who you are. If you hook up with someone and have to put energy into hiding your feelings or who you really are every day, the relationship will be draining and fake. Not all women want a stereotype barbarian brute as a partner.
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Ceres
Supreme Hero
and sweetness
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posted October 10, 2007 11:21 AM |
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Love? Huh? What kind of love are we talking about here?
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Mytical
Responsible
Undefeatable Hero
Chaos seeking Harmony
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posted October 10, 2007 11:27 AM |
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The kind adults have for each other sometimes. Ie not the love of a mother or father for their children, or brother/sister, ect.
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Ceres
Supreme Hero
and sweetness
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posted October 10, 2007 11:30 AM |
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Ah, that! Since I haven't felt love for a long time, I have no idea about it. And uh... Don't want to recall my experiences about it either.
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Orfinn
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Werewolf Duke
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posted October 29, 2007 01:23 AM |
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Nice thread this. I have an outburst about this so called "love" phenomenon as well. Please note that this is not discrimination, seriously girls works just fine as good friends but being in a relationship with a chick is futile In My Opinion.
For me most girls/women are the most manupulative things on this planet. They make guys crawl, seducing them, make them do their bidding and such. I been there, done that with 7 different girls in real life. I gave them a chance to show me trust, cause Im always a guy that someone can trust, whetever they are girl or boy. I always keep an secret and support they who have been in the same situation as me, if not I atleast try to understand that new situation. They misused my trust when it comes to that. How could they? Well thats a question I have pondered for a long time.
I think its either that they know how easy it is to get me trusting them and then misuse me of the info they smoothly got from me in the "nice", "understanding" conversations with them, or its just a subcouncious instinct gut feeling they have to drop boys that they dont even have a reason to drop at all..cause they havent given the time to know my personality, so they just give up and live on until the next "victim" of a boy crosses their path.
So a tip guys, if they dont bother with 2 way communication, where you always contact them first before they bother contacting you, forget them...
Another tip. Be careful to not become to close friends, you may ruin the chance you have to get in relationship with that particular girl. I have a buddy, which have experienced this and now he lives on with partiyng every weekend to find "that" girl which may save him from the singel life. I feel his suffering, cause its, sad to say..normal, in fact sometimes I feel that girls are so demanding that they just end up being good friends "only" now I dont say good friends are a bad thing, far from. But When a girls mention that to you, you know the cahnce to be with that beauty for at least some weeks..or month are scrapped from reality 
Yes. There are incredible enough girls that are exception to that rule, but please dont come with that: "Well theres still around 1-2 billion girls/fishes out there to try out" Well, yeah but 7 quite different girls..fishes! are JUST enough for me to conclude, they better fit as f-friends, hey-and-hello friends or just good friends than a relationship with them...
I try to live with that last statement, but dang its hard not to avoid feeling alone when seeing those "lucky" guys having girlfriends around. I guess its instinct that I have that feeling, man I gotta be coldhearted if I want to be singel then? And I dont want to be coldhearted. Of two disliked things, being coldhearted or having an unpredictable girlfriend, well the choice is not easy...far from easy.
And some critism on boys as well, as I explained above, well we guys aint better when it comes to situations like I have experienced, but on a far lower percentage than girls when it comes to such.
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la_ultima_hora
Adventuring Hero
STFU or DDOS
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posted October 29, 2007 07:42 AM |
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Ha love... its full of pain most of the time. Im afraid to date again. ha so much heart break
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Mytical
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Undefeatable Hero
Chaos seeking Harmony
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posted October 29, 2007 09:32 AM |
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A lot of people even mistake what love is. If you are trying to possess somebody it is not love, it is lust. Same with trying to 'change' or control them. Love is accepting them for who they are, and carring about their best interest over yours. Even if that means letting them go. It is about protecting them, but not smothering them. When you would rather die then see them hurt, even a little.
Now don't get me wrong. It's not about agreeing with everything they think. It's not about pandering to them, or serving them, or anything like that. Love is a two way street, should be equal give and take. If it is only give or only take, then it is no longer love...but lust. If somebody hits or hurts you, they don't love you, and it becomes about lust. You may care deeply for them, but love has to exsist on both sides for it to truely be love.
Ever sit up just watching somebody sleep? Been content just to sit and talk for hours, no alterior motives? Sent romantic gifts (don't count birthdays, valentines days, or similar) just because? A lot of guys say "I am a nice guy, why doesn't x or y want to be with me?" maybe they think you are just being nice to get with them. Are your motives pure?
I have a lot of male friends. They are nice, and they know that they will never be more then friends. The jerks (bad boys) I don't even give the time of day to. They avoid me should I be going out on the town with one of their 'girlfriends' (the jerks that is), because they know I will sooner hit them then put up with them. If that is evil, I don't want to be good. I am a woman who doesn't put up with jerks . However, I don't mislead any guy. They know straight up, they can be my friends, but nothing else. Ever.
Yes, I don't like it when a girl leads on a guy. I feel it is wrong. If a girl uses one of my guy friends, I am not above confronting her about it. And trust me boys, us gals can be down right evil. Don't let any of them tell you different. If you are friends with a girl, ask her straight up. They don't give you a straight answer, bail. You don't need that. If they say "We'll only ever be friends." that should be how it is. Either that or walk away. You never know though, she may have just been waiting for you to make the first move.
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Orfinn
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Werewolf Duke
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posted October 29, 2007 01:48 PM |
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Love is a two way street, should be equal give and take.
Huh! If so, well then I have never felt love before, not counting family love of course...
Or short said, I have felt love but only in one direction. 1 way communication.
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frostwolf
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livin' in a bottle of vodka
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posted October 30, 2007 10:11 AM |
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Quote:
To steal from a good movie:
There are only four questions in life worth answering:
"What is sacred?"
"What is the soul made of?"
"What is worth living for,
and what is worth dying for?"
Indeed one answer: vodka.
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la_ultima_hora
Adventuring Hero
STFU or DDOS
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posted October 30, 2007 10:17 AM |
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i wrote a song:
"[chorus]
Don't break my heart
your torturing me
my heart is starting to break
but you don't even seem to care
Don't break my heart
you broke the last part of me
i've tried so hard to catch my breath
oh wheres the humanity?
i cannot bare this stress
oh how your killing me"
thats just part of it.
but i hate love now. its hurtfull.
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Rip
Tavern Dweller
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posted October 31, 2007 06:07 AM |
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nice posts mytical, and beautifull rymes la_ultima_hora (are u from Romania ?)
i voted for : love is everything...
it's a miracle i'm still alive ... i always say
The last time i promised to someone i would only be with her and no one else... she left (to another country with family) ... so i've been alone ever since... 2 Years
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Aculias
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Undefeatable Hero
Pretty Boy Angel Sacraficer
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posted October 31, 2007 06:35 AM |
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You can not sit & think you know what love is.
Most of the time it's unexplanable, not to mention you dont even know you are feeling it sometimes.
Love comes in so many shapes & forms that it makes it really hard.
Mystical, love is not just doing that.
Love comes in so many ways that it can seem like hatred to some but it's love for others.
Some people express & give love in different ways.
Loving your spouse,kids,the environment,people,country & many other things. People express it differently.
Love is complicated & thats why it can be dangerous as well.
Love can be a broken heart & it does not have to be about loving some person.
It can become a depressing thing.
I think Love is the most powerfullest feeling you can ever have, next to it hate.
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TitaniumAlloy
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Legendary Hero
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posted November 03, 2007 02:46 PM |
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Love is not being able to sleep and having to text message her at 3 in the morning 
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isabelyes
Fierce Battlegriffin
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posted November 03, 2007 02:46 PM |
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love is like oxygen.
love is wonderful.
ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE!
Truth, beauty,
Freedom, Love.
Moulin Rouge!
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william
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Undefeatable Hero
LummoxLewis
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posted November 03, 2007 04:33 PM |
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be who you're meant to be and don't hide your feelings, or try to change who you are.
But that might be my downfall, because I do not think that women would be interested in a person like me who is shy, likes electronic music (honestly how many women like electronic music???), and is a nerd at computers 
meh
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make up a dull day, Fritter and
waste the hours in an off-hand
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TnT_Addict
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Supreme Hero
Beautiful Liar
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posted November 03, 2007 08:20 PM |
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Quote:
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be who you're meant to be and don't hide your feelings, or try to change who you are.
But that might be my downfall, because I do not think that women would be interested in a person like me who is shy, likes electronic music (honestly how many women like electronic music???), and is a nerd at computers
meh
You do not need MANY women, you need only one... THE one 
You don't have to rush anything to be like the others, people mature differently, once you'll be ready you'll find that girl... I know I did
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