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del_diablo
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posted October 22, 2011 08:53 PM |
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Why am I the only person who has heard about the Bystander Effect?
Rule of thumb is that unless you have a fierce soul of passion somewhere in the crowd, or one of your close friends or relatives, you are in a extremely bad situation if a bad situation apperes and you are with a crowd.
Lets say a serial killer attacks you. The more people present, the less chance you have of getting help. If there is a crowd present, they will just sit there and look dumbfund at the situation.
If there is only 1 person present, he will either snow its pants or help you.
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Fauch
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posted October 22, 2011 11:49 PM |
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on facebook again I saw a thread about how guys always lie and can't be trusted and only want to abuse girls, and all the girls were like "yes it's true" (or "yes, it's true, except my boyfriend, he is the only righteous man ever" 
btw, it often appears like women have far more requirements than men to the point it may look completely unrealistic. and interestingly they complain about how men only want sex, while we are supposed to struggle to appeal to them when they just have to pick whoever they prefer 
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meroe
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posted October 23, 2011 12:29 AM |
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Edited by Corribus at 02:51, 23 Oct 2011.
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There is no secret to women, just as there is no secret to men.
I can only really give the female perspective here. Yes its true that there are many women who never appear to be satisfied with their men (and I don't mean sexually). I hear the age old story of men complaining that women want to change them. And yes I have seen this many many times. I honestly don't know why some women do this. I've never really understood it. If you have fallen for someone, fallen in love with their personality, the way they are, why would you want to change that?? That I really don't get. But apparently lots of women do.
I think one of the main reasons is that women are very much in competition with other women. There is no real thing as the 'sisterhood', certainly nothing like what men have. Women don't really support each other the way men do. I don't know if this is something to do with insecurities or jealousies. And if there is a man involved it can become a free for all.
I've witnessed girlfriends turn on each other in a nano second, fighting over guys. Its the most stupidest thing. And when they do get together as 'support', that's when it turns into a 'he's a *******' scenario. I've often wondered if this is more along the lines of an underhanded ploy actually.
But regardless of any of this, the simplicity of it all is not to waste your time on superficial and shallow individuals (of both sexes), as that will never go anywhere and just lead to unhappiness. Problem is most people don't have the patience to find out what a person is like before getting involved emotionally/sexually blah.
That might be the secret.
MOD EDIT: Please censor your language according to the CoC.
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Brukernavn
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posted October 23, 2011 01:19 AM |
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I asked my wife what the secret to women is. She said "they want a little bit of everything". And then she explained:
They want a man to be stable, but still be spontaneous.
They want a man to love them, but not smother them.
They want a man to be manly, but still talk about his feelings.
They want a man to be confident, but not arrogant.
They want a man to be nice, but still be a little bad sometimes.
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And so on.
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Fauch
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posted October 23, 2011 01:34 AM |
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Edited by Fauch at 01:41, 23 Oct 2011.
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lol 
oh, that's like my friend, more I know, more I'm confused, she seems to say some things and acts in ways that contradict what she says.
in particular, can't say for sure, but she seems desperate to find a boyfriend (while many boys seem to want her) and at the same time build up such unrealistic expectations that she is afraid to start any relationship because the boy may not be THE ONE.
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If you have fallen for someone, fallen in love with their personality, the way they are, why would you want to change that?? That I really don't get. But apparently lots of women do.
maybe because it's not actually love (considering we even know what is love) but just like a new toy.
it might be because of the way some people define love too. for example, when you have found the "right" person, you can not expect to be forever happy, but there are still people who seem to doubt when they feel just "normal" (not even unhappy)
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Problem is most people don't have the patience to find out what a person is like before getting involved emotionally
err... that makes no sense, you don't choose when you start getting emotionally involved. well, most people have almost no control over it.
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meroe
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posted October 23, 2011 01:40 AM |
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lol
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If you have fallen for someone, fallen in love with their personality, the way they are, why would you want to change that?? That I really don't get. But apparently lots of women do.
maybe because it's not actually love (considering we even know what is love) but just like a new toy.
it might be because of the way some people define love too. for example, when you have found the "right" person, you can not expect to be forever happy, but there are still people who seem to doubt when they feel just "normal" (not even unhappy)
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Problem is most people don't have the patience to find out what a person is like before getting involved emotionally
err... that makes no sense, you don't choose when you start getting emotionally involved. well, most people have almost no control over it.
My first quoted piece proves my second point.
err... that makes no sense, you don't choose when you start getting emotionally involved. well, most people have almost no control over it
Of course you have control over it. If you are the type of person who falls in love at first sight, then maybe you absolutely do need to start slowing down and getting to know someone a little better first.
You can't get emotionally involved with someone you've just met. It takes time, and taking a little extra time with it, isn't going to hurt. That is what that means. I have no idea what you thought it meant?
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Meroe is definetely out, sweet
as she sounds sometimes, she'd
definetely castrate you with a
rusted razror and forcefeed
your genitals to you in a
blink of an eye - Kipshasz
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Fauch
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posted October 23, 2011 01:43 AM |
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meroe
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posted October 23, 2011 02:02 AM |
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and if you break up?
What about it Fauch? It happens. Just because you may have taken time, doesn't mean its going to last forever. Some relationships end well, maturely. Some end badly and some just come to a natural conclusion. Others such as my grandparents, are going strong after 45 years!!!
However, if you are the long-term relationship kind; you want to settle down, you won't just jump into a relationship. You will take your time and get to know someone and from that, as long as genuine feelings are involved, build up a strong long lasting happy relationship, and therefore (hopefully) avoid a break up.
My grandmother tells me that marriages/relationship take constant work. You should never take each other for granted.
However, that is another discussion.
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Meroe is definetely out, sweet
as she sounds sometimes, she'd
definetely castrate you with a
rusted razror and forcefeed
your genitals to you in a
blink of an eye - Kipshasz
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Fauch
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posted October 23, 2011 02:16 AM |
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yes, and yet don't show when you have doubts 
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Aculias
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posted October 23, 2011 02:22 AM |
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The secret to them is to make sure they get alot of chocolate around the house.
If they are mad at ya, they got alternatives
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Corribus
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posted October 23, 2011 02:53 AM |
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I asked my wife what the secret to women is. She said "they want a little bit of everything". And then she explained:
They want a man to be stable, but still be spontaneous.
They want a man to love them, but not smother them.
They want a man to be manly, but still talk about his feelings.
They want a man to be confident, but not arrogant.
They want a man to be nice, but still be a little bad sometimes.
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And so on.
And you wonder why we're always in trouble.
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I'm sick of following my dreams. I'm just going to ask them where they're goin', and hook up with them later. -Mitch Hedberg
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JollyJoker
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posted October 23, 2011 08:43 PM |
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I asked my wife what the secret to women is. She said "they want a little bit of everything". And then she explained:
They want a man to be stable, but still be spontaneous.
They want a man to love them, but not smother them.
They want a man to be manly, but still talk about his feelings.
They want a man to be confident, but not arrogant.
They want a man to be nice, but still be a little bad sometimes.
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And so on.
Great post. Dead on target, if you ask me.
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Aculias
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posted October 23, 2011 09:30 PM |
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Yea BUT that still only covers some women.
Some women are too tomboyish for that crap lol.
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gnomes2169
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posted October 24, 2011 01:03 AM |
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I asked my wife what the secret to women is. She said "they want a little bit of everything". And then she explained:
They want a man to be stable, but still be spontaneous.
They want a man to love them, but not smother them.
They want a man to be manly, but still talk about his feelings.
They want a man to be confident, but not arrogant.
They want a man to be nice, but still be a little bad sometimes.
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And so on.
Uh... I may have a problem... This sounds like what I'd want my girlfriend to be like. 
And minus that love part (replace the word "Love" with "Caring"), that sounds like what I want my friends to be like.
We may or may not have a problem...
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tomboyish
Lol wut? We're talking about sane stereotypical women here Acu.
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Corribus
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posted October 24, 2011 02:28 AM |
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@gnomes
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They want a man to be manly,
Uh... I may have a problem... This sounds like what I'd want my girlfriend to be like.
You want your girlfriend to be manly?
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gnomes2169
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posted October 24, 2011 02:54 AM |
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Replace "him" with "Her" of course. >.> And Yes, I want a girlfriend who isn't afraid to stand up for herself. I thought that was what was being implied. I see now how wrong I was. Problem with that, Mr. Modship, sir?
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Corribus
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posted October 24, 2011 03:04 AM |
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Sorry, I thought for a minute you wanted your girlfriend to have a beard. Or a hot dog and tater tots.
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Smithey
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Yes im red, choke on it !!!
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posted October 24, 2011 03:05 AM |
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I asked my wife what the secret to women is. She said "they want a little bit of everything". And then she explained:
They want a man to be stable, but still be spontaneous.
They want a man to love them, but not smother them.
They want a man to be manly, but still talk about his feelings.
They want a man to be confident, but not arrogant.
They want a man to be nice, but still be a little bad sometimes.
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And so on.
Funny thing, I asked your wife the same question and she said, "come over here and I'll show you...
Cheeky of me ? Guess it is
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gnomes2169
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posted October 24, 2011 03:08 AM |
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*Baps Cor with a rolled up news paper* Bad Mod, this is an OSM thread. No VW speech here. (Please don't hurt me...)
But no, I'm not homosexual, nor am I bisexual.
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Not that there's anything wrong with that. (To quote Seinfeld)
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Yeah in the 18th century, two inventions suggested a method of measurement. One won and the other stayed in America.
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