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Celfious
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posted August 20, 2011 07:17 AM |
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Edited by Corribus at 07:28, 20 Aug 2011.
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The secret to women
i swear, i contimplated forf 15 seconds where to post this revelation.
The OTSOTM is blocked because of the immidiate expeted reactions to this. But it is serious and no other forum makes sense for it hencefourth the block was removed
"***** now, thanks later."
ever been in a situation with a woman where nothing can be right even if you do or did what they say or said but its not good enough? I swear all it takes is patience, but perhaps this is only half the mystery.
Celfious, please follow censoring rules as outlined in the Code of Conduct.
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Aculias
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posted August 21, 2011 06:28 AM |
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The secret to women.
I guess all women are dif, so you just love them & deal with it all 
No reason to understand women when you can just treat them with love!
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Tsar-Ivor
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posted August 21, 2011 09:31 AM |
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I do wish it worked vise-versa to be honest.
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selcy
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posted August 21, 2011 10:24 AM |
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Men are hard to understand and work out as well.
They change the rules to suit them and make things up as they go along.
Thats not all men as I have a good one now  .
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Zenofex
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posted August 21, 2011 10:39 AM |
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ever been in a situation with a woman where nothing can be right even if you do or did what they say or said but its not good enough?
Aye, they can get you in this situation easily and I think it's always (or almost always) intentional. As far as I can tell, this is how they get the things the way they want them. Of course some girls are more straight-forward and tell you directly what's wrong but... well, they seem to be a minority. Still, all this is a generalization of sorts.
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del_diablo
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posted August 21, 2011 02:43 PM |
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My understanding of love is alien to myself, so I guess I can't comprehend how you got into such a situation in the first place.
A situation where everything is wrong is....... how did you get there in the first place?
The signs must have started somewhere, like denial of communication?
~Novice with no knowledge of anything
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Smithey
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posted August 21, 2011 02:58 PM |
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Edited by Smithey at 15:00, 21 Aug 2011.
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i swear, i contimplated forf 15 seconds where to post this revelation.
The OTSOTM is blocked because of the immidiate expeted reactions to this. But it is serious and no other forum makes sense for it hencefourth the block was removed
"***** now, thanks later."
ever been in a situation with a woman where nothing can be right even if you do or did what they say or said but its not good enough? I swear all it takes is patience, but perhaps this is only half the mystery.
Celfious, please follow censoring rules as outlined in the Code of Conduct.
Here's a crazy thought...
Understand woman's needs and satisfy them
It's as easy as that....
The game is not that hard (we've been playing it long before we had fire), if it is hard on you, that's a strong indicator that you aren't doing it right... think about that part of the equation 
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DagothGares
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posted August 21, 2011 02:59 PM |
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It's largely instinctual, really.
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Fauch
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posted August 21, 2011 06:04 PM |
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Edited by Fauch at 18:11, 21 Aug 2011.
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I'm not sure it's something with girls. it just depends on people. there are some who just want to feel superior, so no matter what you do, they'll make you feel like you are wrong and they are right. I think the problem is to find people who aren't too focalized on themselves. otherwise they'll blame you everytime they don't get exactly what they want, but will be absolutely unable to see that they make you suffer. they'll probably convince themselves that you are taking advantage of them actually.
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Understand woman's needs and satisfy them
It's as easy as that....
not exactly because basically, all we need is a shelter, some food and clothes. and obviously, many girls aren't satisfied with just that. especially clothes it seems, I don't know why, but they seem obsessed with them.
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selcy
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posted August 21, 2011 06:24 PM |
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Not ALL women are like that.
The most important thing for me is that my man loves me as much as I love them. Its nice to be told they love you and show it by holding hands, cuddling and kissing. If you are really in tune with each other you will know what the other person needs.
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Smithey
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posted August 21, 2011 06:26 PM |
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not exactly because basically, all we need is a shelter, some food and clothes. and obviously, many girls aren't satisfied with just that. especially clothes it seems, I don't know why, but they seem obsessed with them.
LOL'd, brilliant post 
What you are talking about Fauch is basic needs all humans have..
I was pointing out the needs of a relationship (of any kind)...
All girls in one or the other form need a guy to provide them with security and warmth...
That's the basic thing they need, the other stuff is merely a matter of nuances and knowing the person you are with....
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selcy
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posted August 21, 2011 06:28 PM |
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SEX (in the words of Acu lol)
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del_diablo
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posted August 21, 2011 09:38 PM |
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Not ALL women are like that.
Look at it this way: A lot of women are taught to act like that, and the guys are taught it must be a bit like that in a indirect fashion.
Why indirect? Take a look at what a "friend" is to most people: Co-workers you do not care about at all. Nobody points out or corrects this.
So what do the people do? They get into relationships to have sex and somebody to hang out with, with people their are not compitable with at all.
And while being in the worst rush of hormones society starts telling them a lot of silly things. Such as "love at first sight", "eternal marriage", "friends4ever", and even more things that are wrong because of the inital premises is wrong.
So they won't tell their girlfriends they are snowes, because they are told "it is suppose to be that way", nor will they expect some security and comfort being granted by their girlfriends.
And because of that, the wheel of bad relationships will keep on spinning, until our society no longer is what it is today.
And in that new society? There will be other issues and problems, like today, and they will be just as bad.
Dating to find out if you are compitable is OK, but being in a relationship after you find out you are nigh incompitable? Enjoy the pain, it will last and last.
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Seraphim
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posted August 21, 2011 11:44 PM |
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I dont know why this is so but the point is not only to understand them,but also keep answering to their so called "Signs". Ie,repeating an argument she said,always saying to her that you love her or else she would think you are in love with somebody else,noticing important dates helping her out and so on.
To be frank,I have always feared women who would want to use me.Nowadays,most women tend to be average,by average I mean the women who have the same likings(shopping),desires(marrying a rich prince or something) and being snowy.
I dont know about you people but a relationship seems more tedious than worth it these days,at least for me.That is why there is no point to understand them.If you just want to flirt out or something,dont bother to understand them.It is not worth it.
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selcy
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posted August 21, 2011 11:56 PM |
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Wow thats harsh Seraphim.
There are genuine women out there that like a man for who he is and doesn't want to change them or control them.
We all have a past and its the past that can control the future unless you change it. My past sucked I was hurt in a way that was unacceptable by someone that should have protected me and I was a 7 year old girl. I was married to a guy that mentally, sexually and physically abused me on and off for maybe 10 years of our 21year relationship. I have scars on my scars and yet I am now in a relationship with Acu and yes it is taking a lot for me move on from my past and believe me its not easy but if its worth doing you will do it.
So maybe some woman act the way they do to protect themselves cos I know I did. I have made a decission to put the past behind me and concentrate on the future. Acu is a fantastic man and has the patience of a saint with me and the reason we work is cos he understands me and doesn't judge me.
A relationship takes work it doesn't just happen.
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DagothGares
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posted August 22, 2011 12:07 AM |
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I dont know about you people but a relationship seems more tedious than worth it these days,at least for me
Aye, but I attribute it to me, being just an unbearable person to have a long-lasting relationship with (I'd eat myself alive, if I were in some sort of long-lasting, close and personal relationship with someone).
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evinin
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posted August 22, 2011 12:19 AM |
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Hm... I agree that there are really awful women... I mean - just horrifying. But there are still nice women out there...
There isn't A SECRET, THE SECRET. I mean... It all depends on so many things that it's not even real how much are they. Saying things like "women want to be loved" or "you just have to understand them" isn't fair because... Don't men want the same stuff after all?
What do I want? Well, I don't really want much. I want to have some respect, not stuff like "I'm a man, you are a woman, ergo - I am a greater being". I need some listening, advices, help when it's needed and no help from the "knight on a white horse" if I don't want it. That is just again "I'm a man, ergo - I have to protect you, weaker being". Maybe, but men sometimes need moral help more than women. I don't want some selfish acts, I don't want to be misunderstood. And the two things that I want the most are trust and the feeling that I can be myself. Really. Tell me, men, don't you want the same things?
Anyway, maybe I'm way too little to know anything, so just ignore me.
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DagothGares
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posted August 22, 2011 12:27 AM |
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Women want to feel safe and kept by this confident and charismatic man and they want to have fun of course. That's it. That's the secret. When woman have the sense that you have your act together, are confident about your sexuality and that you aren't clingy or weak or a wife beater or a junkie and throw something random in there, like you like to wear red or you're a "great listener" or whatever and you've got a solid case with most women, I reckon.
There's really nothing rational going on beyond that. Rationalisation is something that happens to explain the great feeling you have in your gut when you're together with someone. It's not like they'll think: "Oh, we understand each other perfectly and complement each other, so I guess I like him now." No, it's the other way around.
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Tsar-Ivor
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posted August 22, 2011 12:31 AM |
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I utterly detest generalization of any kind (even from myself) regardless of how much you 'dudes' think it's necessary.
As for you Evinin: You need to voice your opinions no matter how shrewd or vague they may be, and age or gender doesn't factor into the world of knowledge or logic, it's only if you want to generalize .
To answer your question, I do (we do  ) we just have a harder time seeing that which truly matters.
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DagothGares
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posted August 22, 2011 12:33 AM |
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Oh, please, Tsar-Ivor, all humans need to process oxygen in order to stay alive longer than two minutes. That's a generalisation. Now, contest me on that.
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