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TheDeath
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posted January 24, 2009 01:17 AM |
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She could have paid the trip 
wait, her father didn't know about you, did he? so nope that doesn't work 
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winterfate
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posted January 24, 2009 01:26 AM |
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Lol...I guess so. 
Ok...it goes like this (full recap for those of you who haven't followed the few posts I contributed previously on the subject):
I met this girl two semesters ago (I'll just call her Blue). At the time, I was interested in her friend (whom I'll call Red). I flirted with Red for a while, but desisted due to a conversation I had with Blue, where I find out that Red had a bf. Matter-of-factly, I ask Blue if she also had a bf, and she replied yes. So, that was the end of that for a whole semester. We didn't take any classes together, so I just saw them on occasion.
Roll the clock forward one semester.
Now, the semester starts out normally. Nothing special, until that fateful Friday.
We took the Organic Chemistry lab together. For the first few weeks, it was normal, but suddenly I just asked her out of the blue:
"Do you want to go grab a bite to eat after the lab?"
She looked at me and said yes.
So we went.
This kept going on during the whole semester, and I started gaining ground (I even gave her a back massage once  ), or so I thought.
Well, roll the clock to winter break.
Kaputz. I lost all contact with her. For reasons I still don't understand, her cellphone wouldn't receive calls (I thought she was avoiding me, until I talked to one of her friends, who had had the same problem to reach her via phone). She has no internet over at her house, so that's a no-go. I don't know precisely where she lives (she lives near campus during the semester, but her home is quite a ways away from there), so I couldn't visit.
Summary: Lost all contact.
Roll the clock one month...to January 20th:
I had called her on two separate occasions from the 15th to that day, and a guy had answered the phone. I'm naturally pessimistic, but there's not TOO many positive reasons for this to happen anyways. However, nothing prepared me for what she was going to answer when I asked her about it. She said:
"Oh, that's my bf."
Now keep in mind that she had told me once, around late September, that she was going to "focus on her studies" instead of getting a bf.
My world crashed. I replied:
"Heh, you had him well-hidden. How long?"
Answer: "Recently."
I refuse to believe that she managed to get a bf in that month off. But, that's what it looks like.
Anyways, I had class in about 5 minutes (gotta love excuses that are valid), so I bid her farewell, and went up the stairs. Suffice it to say, that I paid 0 attention to my remaining classes that day. 
Oh well, I'm used to it by now. I'll be fine in a few days...I hope.
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posted January 24, 2009 01:36 AM |
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Quote:
I met this girl two semesters ago (I'll just call her Blue)... it was normal, but suddenly I just asked her out of the blue
I c wat u did thar.
Anyway, I hope things get better for you.
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Aculias
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posted January 24, 2009 01:55 AM |
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Love is like a flower.
Love is like a rainbow,
Love is like the forest.
Love is like a river.
Love is like a steak.
Love is like a country of Roads.
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winterfate
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posted January 24, 2009 05:58 AM |
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@Mvass: Thanks. I'm sure things will get better. They always do.
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If you supposedly care about someone, then don't push them out of your life. Acting like you're not doing it doesn't exempt you from what I just said. - Winterfate
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Aculias
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posted January 24, 2009 07:36 AM |
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Your just young. Emotions are raw & it feels like your stomach is coming out of your throat & you your heart literally aches.
That is what we call blind love.
It happened to me, it happens to almost everyone.
We all experience a heart break.
I promise you though that you will find a woman who wont play games.
You have to understand that alot of young girls like to play with your heart.
They use you because they get bored.
Better that it happened now then later.
I had it where I was so close. As close as you can get to be BF GF for years.
Then she destroys you.
Some people take a few days to get over it.
If you really loved her, it could take years.
It took me years since I first got on here to get over it.
Many saw me in depression & know my stories on some of the worst hear breaks you ever see.
I do promise that there is someone out there.
Your just young, it will happen.
Think before you do things you may regret later.
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Nikita
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posted January 24, 2009 07:45 AM |
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Sry to hear that Acy ,but there are also some annoying girls,there is one girl in my school that stalks me all the time,its like i walk with my friends and out of nowhere she appears to be going same direction i do untill i get to class then she turns around and goes the way we came,omg she is annoying
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Aculias
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posted January 24, 2009 07:47 AM |
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She likes you but she is shy.
Do you like her?
You should just go talk to her.
Straight out talk to her.
Dont make her nervous because alot of young women are nervous in that age.
Just be a pal, ask her how she doing.
Even if you dont like her. Just make her feel comfortable.
I am sure she is not annoying you on purpose. She is just shy because she likes you
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Nikita
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posted January 24, 2009 07:51 AM |
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Thats the whole point,i dont like her,but im trying to be nice so she wouldnt think anything bad about me.But it seems she doesnt relize it.And some girls arent that shy at all at my age
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Aculias
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posted January 24, 2009 07:55 AM |
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Some are. Some are not.
This can be the famous girl vs boy battle.
I had those a couple times in your age lol.
Just keep ignoring her & she may stop eventually.
Or if she does not know you dont like her.
Just tell her that you do not like her doing what she is doing.
That is not being rude at all.
You being honest.
Tell her straight up.
"I dont like when you keep doing what she is doing."
You wont be rude & your being honest about it.
If she keeps it up. Then you have a right to be as rude as you want.
That will mean she is Messing with you then liking you.
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Doomforge
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posted January 24, 2009 09:27 AM |
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Dagoth, don't worry, I won't repeat the old parts. The new one will focus on new problem
Winterfate: sad story. There's nothing worse than getting tricked like that... I know how you feel. Well, the only GOOD thing is, that if a girl behaves like that (getting 2nd boyfriend right in front of your nose, disappearing, etc) - she's not worth it, because she can't be trusted even one tiny bit.
So that guy will most likely get the same you did, one day. And then you will be the one that feels good
The thread? Most likely after Tuesday. I got a date tuesday morning, and depending on its course, it will be either a happy thread, or another "kill me" thread
Death: I couldn't follow her for many reasons. First, we have known each other for just few weeks. Second, her parents were obviously oblivious to my presence third, I have my life, college and work here. Fourth, it may be legal in Poland, but it's not legal in France, and I don't want any damn pedophilia problems around my neck. I am not one and I don't want anything related to it, ESPECIALLY law problems, lol. So, the case is dead. Shame, but, well, life is life.
Oh, I split up with my previous GF (not the one that moved to France) on valentine's day. Isn't that great?
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Aculias
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posted January 24, 2009 09:37 AM |
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Easiar said then done in that age .
Once he finds another GF or just hang out with your friends, it helps you get over it.
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veco
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posted January 24, 2009 10:24 AM |
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This would be my 3rd story in total but the first two I see very blurry so I won't mention them
High school, 2nd grade.
At that time I was considered as one of the most unfriendly persons around, so my reputation didn't exactly help me.
At the start of the 1st semester we got a transfer student in which I got interested in after a month. I knew it'll be a long run from the very begining since she got enough time to make an opinion about myself.
We made occasional contact at school, as time passed we started talking via the internet and I got really close to her. At that point I thought I was the pesimistic one but I soon found myself cheering her up, helping her out and keeping company.
Then one day I saw her kissing with some fellow whom I have seen around (one of my friends firend). Surprised? Rather yes. And disrupted inside but I kept it all to myself. At that point I tried to change my attitude towards people, effects were not stunning but noticable
This continued until the end of the 2nd grade when they broke off, don't know what happened but she couldn't stand to even look at him.
Summer brake, sleepy, I saw her from time to time.
3rd grade.
Once again I got on good terms with her (when she had her BF she didn't have time for anything else). Long afternoon conversations, there still was pesimism in her which I tried to root out. And as I was mustering my courage to ask her out my friend told me she got a new BF which she met half drunk on a party. I was infuriated, the next day I told her everything what I had in mind. Response? "Oh don't worry, you'll find a gf for yourself". Not a word spoken to her since, even though after a while I've seen her showing some guilt but at that point it didn't matter to me anyway.
that's the 3rd story, I don't want to dirty my hands any further
Sorry for throwing that sour tale of mine, I just felt like spitting it out
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JollyJoker
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posted January 24, 2009 12:04 PM |
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A small bit of advice;
if you meet someone and there is to be more than just superficial contact there will be something like a notable electricity for BOTH which cries out for and demands a continuing development of the relationship. Therefore and consequently, having a CONSTANT "relationship" that does NOT develop over a longer period - i.e. the relationship stalls at grabbing food together and talking a bit then - is a strong indication that there isn't enough electricity for more.
I'd say, if a relationship stalls for a month, you can safely assume that there won't result anything more out of it.
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posted January 24, 2009 12:04 PM |
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I got a problem?
Now let us dive into my heart and soul.
I like her, I think she is beautfiul, I think she is sweet, lovely and a lot other adjectives.
And sometimes I really do catch myself in missing her - but I really have a hard time believing that I am in love with her.. If you understand, I like her but am I in love with her?
Perhaps it is just me thinking to much instead of just enjoying her more?
I feel terrible about it actully. When I am around her, I don't want to let go of her but when we are not together I can actully work normally - but if I know she is around, more then 100m away, I need to see her- but if I am home and she is at home, I don't feel that urge to see her..
What do you say?
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Aculias
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posted January 24, 2009 12:12 PM |
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I dont think it is for us to say.
It seems your fighting many emotions within.
You have to look within yourself & find the answers.
Only you know the real truth.
We would only be speculating & saying things you pretty much already know.
Basically, if your having feelings, you have to find out how you really feel.
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veco
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posted January 24, 2009 12:28 PM |
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@JJ
Maybe you're right, now that I think of it I don't really feel anything about being rejected.
I'm more disappointed about the fact that over all that time it was me who initiated conversations and made effort to continue the relationship. In the end I feel betrayed or rather forgoten by a person which I deemed a friend.
Year after that I send her a message that I'm sorry for being an ass and ignoring her. She asked is this a farewell or do I want to start again. Sure, why not. Shortly after, when I stopped typing "Hi" first it was dead again, although I see ehr online all the time.
Am I unlucky or make poor choices + being naive?
bah, I should get over things myself rather than try to sort them out
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Doomforge
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posted January 24, 2009 12:51 PM |
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I think most people go through this. Nothing special.
Still, you should rather enjoy it, not worry. First love never comes back
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veco
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posted January 24, 2009 12:53 PM |
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I find myself not caring
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Doomforge
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posted January 24, 2009 12:55 PM |
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That was addressed to emil. Sry ;p
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