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TitaniumAlloy
TitaniumAlloy


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posted August 11, 2008 09:19 AM

MM in my opinion this is good that she has told you and that you have another chance to talk things over.

The best thing you can do from this is learn and try to better yourself in the future.

Although I'm not sure I'm in the position to give advice to anyone but that's just my perspective. The one thing that worries me is this:

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I'm not going to get my hopes up about anything yet but I will call her tomorrow.


Be careful. To me this situation looks like it can only end in you trying to win her back (I'm not accusing, just a general thing) and that could be self-destructive.




One of my favourite quotes from Neil "Style" Strauss:
"There are many incredible women in this world. [...] That's not love you're feeling, but obsession. And that obsession is likely to scare her away. The best thing you can do for yourself and for her is to go out and interact with as many women as possible, until you realize that there are plenty of people out there for you - some of whom are capable of recognizing your worth and reciprocating your feelings."
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Moonlith
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If all else fails, use Fiyah!
posted August 13, 2008 12:01 PM

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I was wrong.  Seems it boils down to me being repetitive and boring.

I admit spending our last three or four...maybe five dates at my house is far from exciting.  I probably could have been more creative.  

She also mentions that we need better communication.  That I completely agree with.  She really needs to start telling me things.  I had to suffer and wait to finally find out what was wrong.  I wish she would have just told me.


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Gotta love the people that are dishonest about their feelings, and don't tell you if something is on their mind untill the day they say it's over and won't discuss it even




Seriously, get her to fix that before you try anything else with her.
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MightyMage
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posted August 13, 2008 05:25 PM

I still don't know if I'm going to try to work things out with her.

I guess the better way to put it is I would like to work things out with her and I would love for things to go back to the way they were minus the bad stuff that caused this obviously but I don't know if it's worth it or not.  I don't know if she has lost all her feelings for me.  I don't know much of anything right now.
She said she MIGHT meet with me this weekend.  She did all the talking last Saturday.  If she agrees to meet with me then it will be my turn this time.  
I just have to know, did she really loose all feelings for me because of one bad week?
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MightyMage
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posted September 15, 2008 04:02 AM

It's been a month since I've updated this thread but I need to tonight.

I've been spending A LOT of time with her lately.  We see each other nearly every weekend or on days throughout the week but because we're broken up I've kept my boundaries.  I haven't held her hand or kissed her or tried anything with her.
I hug her when I drop her back off at home but that's as far as it goes.

We went on a weekend trip during the beginning of the month and I wanted to hug her and kiss her and tell her I love her but I couldn't.  Not because I didn't feel it but because I was unsure how she felt so I became a spineless pansy and did nothing.  The WHOLE WEEKEND!

She sends me messages telling me that she misses me

She spills her feelings for me

She tells me she loves me and wants me back

I still did nothing.  Last night I took her out and we had a great time but once again I dropped her off.  We hugged and I drove away feeling like an idiot.  So when I got home I decided to do the same thing she had done.  Write a message saying exactly how I feel and send it to her.

I'm on AIM with her right now and she's pretty angry.  She wants to know why I sent that and if I really felt that way why I did nothing.  Why didn't I kiss her or make a move?  

I think this is it.  I think my waiting has brought an end to it all.

Why was I so foolish?  I'm not purposely blaming myself but I knew that my holding back was destructive.  Even my parents told me that it appeared as though I was playing head games with her.

She's mad but she wants to see me either tomorrow or Tuesday to talk about it.  

I don't know what to do.  I want to see her and make up for the past month of holding back.  I want to kiss her but I know tomorrow is to talk...I think...I don't know.  I'm confused again.

I think I need to kiss her once just to remind her.

Any pointers?
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OmegaDestroyer
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Fox or Chicken?
posted September 15, 2008 04:39 AM

Dude, relax.  Seriously.  This whole situation has become so unnecessairly complicated.  If you think kissing her will fix things, go for it.  Sitting around and thining about everything certainly won't fix things.  Trust me on that one.

Funny how she's all upset at you for not kissing her but it seems that she didn't try to make a move either.  Women are funny like that.

That's right.  I went there.
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MightyMage
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posted September 15, 2008 04:53 AM

I said the same exact thing to her.

Her response?

Jasmine: you're the guy
Jasmine: i was waiting for you to make the move
Jasmine: you made the first move in the beginning

So yeah, I try not to over complicate things but when I reach a point of REALLY not knowing what to do I like to hear what other people's opinions on the matter.
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OmegaDestroyer
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posted September 15, 2008 04:54 AM

Hmm... You may want to rely on people with a bit more success than myself then.  I've dated enough to avoid dating at the moment.
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MightyMage
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posted September 15, 2008 04:58 AM

lol

good idea

I guess if it truly is OVER then at least I can take this from it.  I've lived and learned. I know that holding back and waiting is stupid.
Plus I guess the saying, "Better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all" applies as well.
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MightyMage.  For he is all I could ever
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OmegaDestroyer
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posted September 15, 2008 05:04 AM
Edited by OmegaDestroyer at 05:08, 15 Sep 2008.

If you truly love her, you gotta keep fighting.  If she's willing to let it go so easily, she never really loved you.
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You drink my blood and drown
Wrath and raving I will not stop
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gabislayer
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posted September 15, 2008 01:15 PM

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Plus I guess the saying, "Better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all" applies as well.


Careful at what you lose ...
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MightyMage
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posted September 16, 2008 05:41 AM

Well tonight was good.  I picked her up from her college and we went to a local outdoor mall.  Tons of stores and stuff.  We walked around for a bit and I bought her some chocolate from Godiva.  It's her favorite.  Then we went to P.F. Changs (a fancy Chinese style restaurant) and got some dinner.  Afterwards she suggested a movie and lucky for me it was one of those theaters where the arm rest goes up to turn the two seats into like a love seat kind of thing.  After the movie we got some coffee from Starbucks then I took her home.  But this time before she left I did what I've wanted to do for a while now but seemed to awkward before .  I kissed her.  Several times I might add.  I missed that and she must have too because it's been awhile since I've seen her smile like that.

Ok then, I think things are good for now.  No more whining or depressing posts from me for awhile.
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MightyMage.  For he is all I could ever
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Azagal
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posted September 16, 2008 09:15 AM
Edited by Azagal at 09:16, 16 Sep 2008.

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Ok then, I think things are good for now.  No more whining or depressing posts from me for awhile.

YESSSS!!! Oh yeah. I'm really happy you got back together again, since you seemed so very serious about all of this.
Jaaaaij!!! WUHUUUU!!!

Way to go man! Just do me one favour will you? Please don't be that kind of lover that submits to her will because you are simply so happy that you are back together so everything is fine aslong as you're together. Not saying that that is going to happen but you know... just in case.
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Elvin
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posted September 16, 2008 09:47 AM

Go MightyMage!
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watcher83
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posted September 17, 2008 09:03 AM
Edited by watcher83 at 09:03, 17 Sep 2008.

To MM
I've read all the posts,I'm just going to say what I think, I may be wrong and I don't want to say something that will upset you but....

From what I've heard from you, I don't really like this girl, she seems shallow in her commitment to you. If you hang around her any longer she will dump you again, mark my words or worse she will tell you that she fell in love with someone else.
If I were you I'd keep my distance for a while, If she knows she can have you at any time she'll take you for granted.
So, my advice is stay away for a couple of weeks, don't write, don't call; and if she decides she really wants you she'll take the initiative and if not, well then it wasn't woth it anyway.

P.S. You can totaly disregard this message if you don't agree.

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TitaniumAlloy
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posted September 17, 2008 09:14 AM
Edited by TitaniumAlloy at 09:15, 17 Sep 2008.

NO MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(baby don't hurt me)
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william
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posted September 17, 2008 09:20 AM

@watcher, why would he want to do that when he has just gotten back with her? I say that it is good that MM and the girl are back together because it does seem to make him happier (from what I have read in his posts).

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TitaniumAlloy
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posted September 17, 2008 09:22 AM

No I kinda agree.

Make sure you don't violate the 1.5 rule at all times


(that is, can't call her over 1.5 times as often as she calls you )
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TitaniumAlloy
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posted September 17, 2008 09:24 AM

oh and dude
no matter how well/badly it ends


you met this girl over a RANDOM PHONE CALL. What are the chances lol?

You're lucky no matter what happens
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watcher83
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posted September 17, 2008 09:30 AM

It's just my opinion William; and I speak from the experience of past years; I had a similar situation 8 years ago, just before I met the girl to whom I'm married now

TA is right, I don't know the 1.5 rule though

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Aculias
Aculias


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posted September 17, 2008 01:10 PM

Love is an emotion

See I can help guys out on relationship problems almost as good as with women

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