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posted September 17, 2008 01:52 PM |
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Yes, I got a bad case of love, yesterday. The doc said I might not make it.
EDIT: congrats, MM!
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gabislayer
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posted September 17, 2008 02:02 PM |
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Yes, I got a bad case of love, yesterday. The doc said I might not make it.
EDIT: congrats, MM!
There is a cure you know ...
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TitaniumAlloy
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posted September 17, 2008 02:27 PM |
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Yes, the cure is well known.
Lemon juice, honey, crushed stag-beetle, hair from Shakespeare and a few owls beaks for good measure 
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friendofgunnar
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posted September 17, 2008 02:46 PM |
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Yes, the cure is well known.
Lemon juice, honey, crushed stag-beetle, hair from Shakespeare and a few owls beaks for good measure
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MightyMage
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posted September 20, 2008 07:36 AM |
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I've read all the posts,I'm just going to say what I think, I may be wrong and I don't want to say something that will upset you but....
From what I've heard from you, I don't really like this girl, she seems shallow in her commitment to you. If you hang around her any longer she will dump you again, mark my words or worse she will tell you that she fell in love with someone else.
If I were you I'd keep my distance for a while, If she knows she can have you at any time she'll take you for granted.
So, my advice is stay away for a couple of weeks, don't write, don't call; and if she decides she really wants you she'll take the initiative and if not, well then it wasn't woth it anyway.
P.S. You can totaly disregard this message if you don't agree.
Wow, it's like you saw the future.
Yep, I'm done with her. No more games. No more of her cutting me down and making me feel like I'm not good enough. I haven't really talked about that issue because it's recent.
The crap that she initially broke up with me over came up again. I don't know what was the reasoning behind it but Tuesday night she had me on the phone ranting until 1:30 in the morning. I'm an all around good guy and I figured if something was really bothering her then I would be more then happy to listen. That was one of the things I did wrong before. She tried telling me what was wrong and I brushed her off and changed the subject.
This time she brought up the thing with my finances again. I thought everything that needed to be said about that issue had already been said. So I kind of groaned and said "This again!?"
Because of that comment now I'm an uncaring jerk.
I really don't know how all that ended. I fell asleep. I had work in four hours.
Then she calls me yesterday sounding all sad and says the person who was supposed to pick her up from her college couldn't make it because her car broke down.
I was like, "oh well I guess you better call your dad or soemthing. Sorry to hear that"
She says, "actually I was hoping you could come out and pick me up. I'd really like to see you and I'm sorry about the other night."
I swear I am such a stupid sucker. I told her fine and that I would be there in an hour. So I picked her up and asked her if she was hungry. She said yes so I took her to a Mexican restaurant down the road.
All during the meal everything seemed fine. Then there was a screw up with my credit card when I went to pay for the meal so I told her to sit tight while I ran across the street to the gas station so I could get money from the ATM.
I told her sorry for that. It was pretty embarrising and she said no big deal. So we were talking about some random things and I don't remember how it slipped in there but she asked if I had ever had expensive dates with any of my past girlfriends. I was like I don't know. Maybe. And the ranting began.
"Well why was I so different from your other girlfriends? Why didn't you ever get creative and do something real nice for me"
I answered, "I did plenty of nice things for you. Just about everything I did was with you in mind. You love Godiva chocolate and Starbucks so I made it a habbit to take you to those places often and get you whatever you wanted."
And it went on and on from there escalating from that to talking about the finances thing again where I became a lying jerk who doesn't trust her and can't be trusted myself. I play mind games and I sugar coat everything.
These were the words that she kept repeating for FOUR HOURS. That's how long I sat there and let her put me down and belittle me. I even got her a coffee because she started shivering.
I took her home after that and she said very little to me the whole way back. This morning I looked at my phone and there was a text message from her telling me to check my e-mail. So I did. Basically the e-mail was telling me that we were over and so on and so forth. I honestly didn't care at that point.
After everything we had.
She'll always have a place in my heart but I want nothing more to do with her. I'm done.
Time to start focusing on myself...Oh that's right, according to her that's all I do. I am a selfish lying jerk afterall. 
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Though I must still bow
in awe for the awesomeness that is
MightyMage. For he is all I could ever
want to be! - OhforfSake
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OmegaDestroyer
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posted September 20, 2008 07:37 AM |
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Good riddance. You don't deserve that drama Mage.
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The giant has awakened
You drink my blood and drown
Wrath and raving I will not stop
You'll never take me down
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MightyMage
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posted September 20, 2008 07:46 AM |
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Damn straight.
What really pissed me off the most was the fact that everything with her is one eextreme or another. There is no middle ground or leeway with her.
I kept something from her which she condidered a lie. In her mind this makes me a liar.
I "lied" to her which shows I don't care. That's right. Everything else I've done doesn't matter. I'm an uncaring person.
Also, I made a few jerky comments when she started bringing up my money again. Now I'm a jerk. A couple of comments in an angry moment makes me a complete jerk.
By "lying to her" (we're still talking about the fact that I didn't divulge issues with my money) this means I don't trust her and I've probably kept other things from her which in turn means I can't be trusted.
So yeah, I don't need that garbage. I've been nothing but good to her. She needs to open her eyes and see that there are much worse guys out there. Even bigger jerks then I am.
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Though I must still bow
in awe for the awesomeness that is
MightyMage. For he is all I could ever
want to be! - OhforfSake
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william
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posted September 20, 2008 07:50 AM |
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Damn. that really sucks dude. But at least that is over now. Maybe in the future you can find a woman who loves you for you, and doesn't worry too much about finances and anything like that. 
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Guitarguy
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posted September 20, 2008 09:13 AM |
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MM,
Sorry I read this thread so late. I was so preoccupied with trying to tie a decent noose that I haven't been very active at HC. But anyway, I read about your experiences with that girl and I sympathize with you. It was a difficult thing to have gone through, and I'm sorry that it didn't work out. All the same, I'm glad you made it out of there. You did what you could.
And now, I'll leave you with a fitting quote from a Tom Petty song:
Time after time, night after night
She would look up at me
And say she was lonely
I don't understand the world today
I don't understand what she needed
I gave her everything, she threw it all away
On nothin'
Cheers,
-Guitarguy
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posted September 22, 2008 09:09 AM |
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Wow, it's like you saw the future.
No, but the past can give us leads about the future
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Aculias
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posted September 22, 2008 10:14 AM |
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WHAT IS LOVE.
SNowflake dont hurt me.
Dont hurt me no more.
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Azagal
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posted September 22, 2008 12:07 PM |
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Damn. that really sucks dude. But at least that is over now. Maybe in the future you can find a woman who loves you for you, and doesn't worry too much about finances and anything like that.
I whole heartedly agree with our dear music genius . Atleast now you have a final decision no "what-if?!", "maybe-I-should", etc. a fresh start is always a cool thing and you'll manage .
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MightyMage
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posted October 10, 2008 12:52 AM |
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It's been almost three weeks since I last saw her and for once I finally feel pretty good.
I've been kind of on and off lately dealing with my thoughts. I have no idea why but I still cared about her and still felt some love for her. I couldn't explain it because at the same time I hated her. Hate is such a strong word and I've never truly hated anyone but her actions caused it. So it had been going back and forth for a while. It certainly didn't help when she started writing myspace blogs again. I haven't deleted her yet. Not because I still want her or anything like that, I'm just not going to pull the same immature crap that she did the first time around. She wants to remain my online buddy then so be it. I wont care one way or the other. About a week after we had last spoke I logged on and she had a new blog. I can't remember what the title was now but it was a stupid saying that we used to say so I figured it was probably her ranting about me some more. Nope, just her rubbing it in my face that she's so happy that she met Rob and she's glad that she made the decision she made to break up with me and blah blah blah on and on.
I guess she must have figured I would be jealous or something. I don't know, maybe I was for a bit but all in all I just lost more respect for her. Really? One week and you're already [kid friendly]fooling around[/kid friendly] with some other guy? Wow. Congrats, you're a w***e.
But the reason I'm in a good mood today is because one of my friends gave me some advice. He said, "Write a letter to her but don't send it. This is for you. Tell her exactly how she made you feel and really vent at her. Get out all your anger and finally for the love of god close that chapter in your book of life. I mean come on. Did you see the way Destiny was looking at you? She gave you her number!"
So I did that and three pages later I feel great. Now I'm debating if I should actually send it to her or not. I've considered it. Mainly because I don't want her to think she won. I feel like she needs to know that she's just as much at fault for things going wrong as I am.
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Though I must still bow
in awe for the awesomeness that is
MightyMage. For he is all I could ever
want to be! - OhforfSake
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DagothGares
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posted October 10, 2008 01:00 AM |
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Personally, I don't think you should send it to her. (might give people the wrong idea in my experience) (and maybe that proves that you're still somehow dependant on what she thinks)
But if it would make you feel better, you should go with it. Just a friendly warning from some spammer, here.
I also don't think love is a competition and if she considers it that way... Fine! Let her have this win, the petty little cretin that she is and you can continue with your life and she can live whatever bum she hooked up with.
just my thoughts 
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OmegaDestroyer
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posted October 10, 2008 01:01 AM |
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Do you really want to open that can of worms? Nothing good will come from it.
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The giant has awakened
You drink my blood and drown
Wrath and raving I will not stop
You'll never take me down
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posted October 10, 2008 03:41 AM |
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*agrees with DagothGares*
Seriously though MightyMage, if she's going to resort to rubbing stuff in your face like that, then you're WAY better off without her.
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If you supposedly care about someone, then don't push them out of your life. Acting like you're not doing it doesn't exempt you from what I just said. - Winterfate
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posted October 10, 2008 04:23 AM |
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Cant argue with loves definition itself because each word come from man, came to define something, so use mans definition.
12 dictionary results for: love
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
6. a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.
7. sexual intercourse; copulation.
8. (initial capital letter) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid.
9. affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.
10. strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books.
11. the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love.
12. the benevolent affection of God for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.
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posted October 10, 2008 07:28 AM |
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I realize I'm a bit late, MightyMage, but in my experience you cannot have a relationship with any kind of future as long as at least one of the lovers is still living with their parents. It simply doesn't work, since it's too awkward. For everyone.
With 16 it may not matter much, but with 23 it does. You want to see some kind of future in a relationship, and any relationship that will have a chance to last is about sex. Now, you don't want to have sex over a longer period in the house of your prospective parents-in-law.
What I miss in your story IS the sex. There didn't seem to be any. Now, I realize that there are those who wait until marriage or something, but whether they do or not, we are back above. In a lasting relationship you WANT to have sex, and
a) if you want to marry for it you need to see a realistic chance to become independent in your own apartment and so on; or
b) you don't care about whether you are married, and in that case you want to have sex after some time in a relationship: on the first evening, on the 2nd, after a week. With 23 that's it. You either have sex at the first real opportunity or you are the marriage type.
So. I read a more basic problem between the lines. I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, if you are 23 you don't want to sit around at your prospective parents-in-law's, feel awkward and steal a kiss; you want to either go out somewhere to have some fun - the movies, a disco, meet with some friends and so on - or go through the business of exploring each other's anatomy in detail.
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posted October 10, 2008 08:41 AM |
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dude, joker, haven't you seen Wayne's World 
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posted October 10, 2008 09:22 AM |
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I answer with a question, TA: haven't you read the forum title? 
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